How Toxic Relationships Steal Your Milestones (And How We Take Them Back)

Описание: During a toxic or narcissistic relationship, something subtle but profound often happens.

You stop celebrating yourself.

Birthdays feel heavy.
Achievements are minimized.
Milestones pass quietly.
Your wins become inconvenient.

Over time, your world grows smaller — not because you lost ambition, but because it no longer felt safe to shine.

In this video, we talk about:

• Why celebration disappears in controlling relationships
• The psychological dynamics behind shrinking yourself
• How jealousy, criticism, and emotional instability train you to downplay your own life
• And how we begin reclaiming our milestones again

You did not “lose your joy.”
You adapted to survive.

And now — we take it back.

Next week marks one year since I started this channel at one of the lowest points of my life. To celebrate that milestone together, I’ll be hosting a special Live Stream Week with three live sessions. Times will be posted on Sunday — you’re warmly invited.

If this video resonated with you, consider marking something small this week. A candle. A note. A quiet celebration. You don’t need permission to honor your own life.

📖 Free Resources (Pay-What-You-Want)
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📕 E-book: How Could He?
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📝 The Bridge Journal — 7 Days of Clarity After Leaving a Controlling Relationship
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🎥 Free Video: Understanding the Trauma Bond
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It is not a substitute for individual medical, mental health, legal advice, or personalised safety planning.
Please reach out to a qualified professional and/or local support services for personalised help, especially if you are in danger or unsure how to stay safe.
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