Public MLC Q&A November 19, 2025 How do you know if you should Stand

Описание: How do you know if you should Stand?
My Husband (53) has been having an affair with someone he supervisors ( also married) since August 2023. He said he would do anything to fix us, but that was a lie. In May 2024 I got the "I love you but I'm not in love with you" speech. I found another organization (Marriage Helpers) and learned of limerence. We went to a workshop in June 2024. He acted like he would fix us, but again it was all lies. We slept in the same bed and were intimate until November 2024; he was still seeing his Limerent Object. He moved into another room. They became official in January 2025. He mostly sees her at work and he goes out once a month or every other month. In June he asked me to work on the marriage, but never broke the emotional contact with her. Five weeks ago he decided he was done again, stating he tried, but hisfeelings weren't returning. He gave her a ring and still does not go out. He drinks all day every day--even at work. He doesn't care and his job is in jeopardy because he's her supervisor, intimate and drinks at work. I'm wondering if its even worth Standing.

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