7.Mirroring

Описание: During the dialogue, it’s the receiver's job to mirror the sender accurately.

Mirroring teaches both partners to accurately hear each other, even when they don’t agree with what’s being said.

When you mirror, you will learn the skills of containing your reactivity.

And develop curiosity for your partner’s world, which i.s different to your own.

In order to do this accurately you will give focused attention to your partner when they send.

Putting your own stuff aside and being there for your partner.

Let’s watch it on the video.

Notice how I mirror Joanna word for word rather than paraphrasing.
This honours her choice of words and makes sure the meaning of what she said doesn’t get altered.

When you’re in the role of the receiver your job is to mirror back and not send in any way.

So make sure your tone is even, and you’re not sending messages with your facial expression or body language.

This is all about tuning in to the sender and putting yourself into their world.

Partners that mirror each other create an opportunity to attune to each other.

The process allows the sender to hear themselves back and figure things out whilst staying in connection with their partner.

This can feel very healing as a core challenge of being in relationship is to balance having a self whilst maintaining a connection with another.
Accurate and attuned mirroring helps resolve that challenge.