Breaking the Cycle: From Powerlessness to purposefull

Описание: Hello COFU Family…
As we continue this powerful conversation on self-control and leadership, today I want to speak about something many families live with but rarely name:

Cycles.

Cycles of anger.
Cycles of control.
Cycles of manipulation.
Cycles of silence.

And here’s the truth —
cycles don’t break themselves.
They are broken by awareness, humility, and choice.

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🌿 Why Cycles Continue

Many people repeat what they learned —
not because they want to hurt others,
but because they were never shown another way.

The Bible says in Hosea 4:6:
“My people are destroyed for lack of knowledge.”

When we don’t recognize unhealthy leadership patterns,
we unknowingly pass them down.

What was normalized becomes repeated.

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🌱 Self-Control Is the Turning Point

The moment you pause before reacting…
the moment you choose restraint over rage…
the moment you respond instead of explode…

that is the moment a cycle begins to break.

The Bible teaches us in Proverbs 16:32:
“Better a patient person than a warrior, one with self-control than one who takes a city.”

God defines strength very differently than the world does.

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🌾 Leadership That Heals Instead of Hurts

True leadership does not say:
“I’m in charge — do what I say.”

True leadership says:
“Follow me — I will show you.”

That is why Jesus led by example.

John 13:15 says:
“I have set you an example that you should do as I have done for you.”

Leadership that heals listens.
Leadership that heals corrects with dignity.
Leadership that heals protects the vulnerable — especially children.

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🌿 You Don’t Have to Be Perfect to Change the Pattern

Let me say this clearly:

You do not have to be perfect
to become a better leader.

You only have to be willing.

The Bible says in 2 Corinthians 12:9:
“My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.”

When you acknowledge your weakness,
God provides strength.

That is where real power comes from.

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COFU Family,
you may not control how you were raised…
but you can control what you pass forward.

Self-control is not about suppression —
it is about transformation.