The 3 minute Game | How to Play 3 minute Game? | Somatic Consent

Описание: Pleasure in your Hands and The 3-Minute Game
The 3-minute Game | How to Play 3-minute Game? | Somatic Consent
What is this about?

The three-minute game originated from Harry Faddis.
It’s a simple practice to separate doing from giving and discover deeper ways to receive.

Where do you start?

You start by waking up pleasure in your hands.

Most people did not have the ability to feel pleasure with their hands. They then touching to get a reaction from the other person. For example, touching to make the other person feel good.

This is the foundation for this touch practice and all other touches.

Find an object you can comfortably hold in your hand. It can be any ordinary object -- a pen, a rock, a phone, etc.

Sit comfortably where you can relax your shoulders and back, and take the object in your hand. It helps to rest your hand in your lap.

Slow down your movement, your breath, your mind. There is nowhere to go and nothing to be accomplished. Just come back to feeling. See what you notice.

With this practice, which we like to call a ‘touch meditation’, you are doing the action -- you are choosing how to move your hand across the object in a way that feels good on your skin -- and you are feeling the sensations of pleasure, joy, and relaxation…

Before playing the 3-Minute game we recommend that you both start with waking up your hands in the 64-day pleasure in your hand's challenge. Any time you play the 3-minute game, practice the touch meditation for five minutes before.
Feel free to come back to this practice any time you like to continue to add to your sensitivity.

After waking up the sensation in your hands, you are ready to move into the exchange.

What is the 3-Minute Game?

The 3-Minute game is based on two questions or requests:
May I feel your hand for three minutes? AND
Will you touch my hand for three minutes?

Each person takes a turn asking both questions, which we will demonstrate.

This is a simple touch practice where there is no goal or destination. It’s not about sex, which can be challenging for many who associate touch with sex. It’s about being present in your skin and following the pleasure.

To play the game -- the setup:
When you play this, take your time and slow down
Set aside about 45 minutes
Set up space where you can play -- outside the bedroom is best to remind you that this is not about sex
Decide who is asking the question first and set a timer for 3 minutes

First Question:
Begin with the first question -- May I feel your hand for three minutes? Notice that this is for you.
The person giving their hand will feel into it and decide if they are willing to engage and respond with a YES, NO, or YES with limits (example)
Once you receive a yes, you feel this person’s hand, just like you felt the object. Move slowly and stay curious. Remind yourself that this is for you. If your mind wanders, that’s okay. Come back to your hands.
As the person giving your hand, can you feel that you are giving a gift? You are giving access to your body. There is nothing more to do. You can stay present and enjoy the sensation of being touched as much as you like.
When the time is up, give that person their hand back and say ‘thank you’ and ‘you’re welcome’
Take a few minutes to share your experience with one another
As the person feeling for yourself, how was it to feel for your own pleasure? Were you able to stay with the sensation? Did you find yourself wondering how it felt for the other person?
As the person giving your hand, how did it feel to give this gift? Were you able to experience a feeling of pleasure?
And then switch roles and the other person asks the same question -- May I feel your hand for three minutes…
After debriefing, you will move to the second question…

Second Question:
Now the first person is asking: Will you touch my hand for three minutes?
As the person giving, in order to know if you are willing to give touch, you need to know what is required, which means asking for clarification:
How would you like me to touch your hand?
Will you …? Be as specific as possible.
The second person feels into whether or not they can give this touch, and responds with YES, NO, or an alternative (example)
As the person being touched, feel free to change your mind at any time. See how much you can follow the present moment impulses for touch -- what would feel really good right now at this moment, rather than trying to create an experience
As the person doing the touch, it is your responsibility to stay within your limits. How much are you willing to give with a full heart?
When the time is up, slow to a stop and take your hands back.
‘Thank you’ and ‘you’re welcome’
Take a few minutes to share your experience with one another -- What did you notice? What was easy? What was challenging? How did it feel in your body?
Switch roles and the other person asks the same question -- Will you touch my hand for three minutes?