When Expressing Your Needs Turns Into Pressure (And How to Prevent It)

Описание: What if the problem isn’t that you have needs…
but that you’ve been trying to manage, soften, or suppress them just to stay connected?

In this video, I walk you through how to express your needs without self-sabotage—without turning them into demands, losing yourself, or trying to control the outcome.

This is about learning how to hold your needs with clarity and self-trust, especially when your nervous system is activated.

Whether you tend to over-explain, shut down, people-please, or stay silent to “keep the peace,” this episode will help you move from internal chaos to grounded, honest communication.

🧠 What You’ll Learn in This Video

✨ Why unmet needs create pressure, resentment, and confusion
✨ How to tell the difference between a need and a strategy
✨ Why regulating your nervous system before speaking matters
✨ How to express yourself without blame, collapse, or control
✨ What “holding your needs” actually looks like in real conversations
✨ Why this work is especially important for LGBTQ+ and polyamorous folks

⏱️ Timestamps

00:00 Introduction: The Impact of Self-Sabotage
00:33 Understanding and Sharing Your Needs
01:02 The Surge of Energy Behind Unmet Needs
02:12 Distinguishing Needs from Strategies
03:03 Regulating Before Expressing Needs
04:01 Support and Resources for Clarity
05:44 Staying True to Yourself in Relationships
08:33 Navigating Polyamorous and Queer Relationships
10:18 Building Capacity for Authentic Conversations
11:18 Conclusion: Practice Makes Perfect

🛠️ Free Resources & Support

👉 Download the FREE Confidence Toolkit (CTK)
Build self-trust, regulate your nervous system, and get practical tools you can use immediately
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👉 Join the CT Polyamorous Facebook Group
A supportive community focused on communication, consent, and secure connection
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👉 Free Discovery Call
Curious about working together or learning more about the Confidence Coming-Out (CCC) Program or the Authenticity Blueprint?
Let’s see what support would actually serve you.
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🌱 If This Video Landed…

You don’t need better scripts.
You don’t need more strategy.

You need capacity, self-trust, and a way to honor your needs without abandoning yourself.

That’s what this work is about.

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