Why Am I So Annoyed? The Story Beneath the Emotion

Описание: What’s really underneath annoyance? In our latest episode of Think About Your Thinking, we explore how irritation often reveals deeper layers of expectation, control, and self-awareness.
In this episode, we’re talking about something we all feel but don’t always unpack — annoyance. You know that moment when you’re irritated… and then somehow you’re annoyed that you’re annoyed? Yeah, that.
We dig into what’s really underneath that feeling. Is it frustration? Disappointment? Control? Lisa shares some very honest reflections about how annoyance can show up when expectations aren’t met, especially when we think we already know how something should go. And we explore how quickly self-judgment can sneak in — now we’re not just bothered, we’re judging ourselves for being bothered.
We also talk about how our reactions are rarely just about the present moment. So much of what we feel is shaped by past experiences, old patterns, and the stories we tell ourselves. When we slow down enough to label what we’re actually feeling, it changes how we respond — to ourselves and to others.
This conversation moves into emotional regulation, co-regulation, and the hard truth that we can’t control other people’s outcomes. We can support. We can care. But sometimes growth doesn’t happen on our timeline — and that’s uncomfortable.
Mostly, we want you to hear this: you’re not alone in your overthinking. Annoyance isn’t a flaw. It’s information. And when we give ourselves a little grace instead of criticism, we create space for real understanding and growth.

🎙️ Key Takeaways
We’re never alone in our overthinking—even when it feels that way.
Annoyance often comes with a layer of self-judgment.
Accurately labeling our emotions helps us regulate them.
We can’t control other people’s actions—only our own reactions.
Growth doesn’t happen on our timeline, no matter how much we want it to.

🎙️ Episode Chapters
00:00 – Overthinking and Big Emotions
01:08 – Let’s Talk About Annoyance
03:59 – When Annoyance Turns Into Frustration
08:19 – How the Past Shows Up in the Present
15:20 – Relationships, Reactions, and Emotional Patterns

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19:59 – Co-Regulation and the Need for Connection
26:10 – Final Reflections on Emotions and Growth