The Best Way To Feel Calm (Is to Not Try To Feel Calm)

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Most people meditate to feel calm. That's actually the problem. In this solo episode, Dan Harris takes live questions from app subscribers on one of the most common — and most counterproductive — traps in meditation: using it to escape what you're feeling instead of actually feeling it.

Dan has been meditating for years and still catches himself over-efforting, chasing states, and getting in his own way. Here, he gets honest about what the practice is actually for.

In this conversation, Dan addresses:
Why meditating through serious emotional pain requires a totally different approach
The "addiction to calm" — why craving a certain feeling in meditation is a hidden hindrance
How to build focus and concentration without straining so hard you give yourself a headache
What to do when you're too physically restless to sit still (especially if you have ADHD)
Whether guided meditations are "training wheels" — or actually the point
How long you really need to meditate (and when to push yourself further)
This episode is a recording of a live session from the 10% with Dan Harris app, where Dan takes questions from subscribers every Tuesday at 4 PM ET.

Timestamps:
0:00:00 Introduction
0:02:44 Non-duality and the illusion of self — why "not finding" is the finding
0:04:50 Meditating through grief and emotional pain (Rose's question)
0:07:50 The connection between rumination and emotion — how to work with both
0:08:20 The addiction to feeling calm in meditation (Lisa's question)
0:10:00 Why wanting a certain state is a hindrance — and how to label it
0:11:00 Concentration without strain — why trying harder makes it worse
0:12:40 The "attitude check" — how to spot an unseen agenda in your practice
0:13:40 Guided vs. unguided meditation — are you keeping your training wheels on? (Jeanette's question)
0:15:00 The "third eye" and the space between your eyebrows (Jamie's question)
0:15:40 Meditating with ADHD and restlessness (Andra's question)
0:17:20 Walking meditation — how Dan actually does it (including the Snuggie)
0:18:50 Should you push yourself to meditate longer? (Kevin's question)
0:20:30 Closing thoughts

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