Turn back time - "I Just Want My Old Life Back” — The Hard Truth About Pelvic Pain Recovery.

Описание: “Can I go back to how I was before this started?”

If you’re living with male pelvic pain, you’ve probably asked that question a hundred times.

In this episode of Pelvic Pain Matters, Karl Monahan begins a mini-series on time — and why the desire to “go back” can quietly keep you stuck in blame, fear, and constant comparison to the old you.

Karl shares his own story (including a serious infection and long-term fear about relationships, sex, fertility, and identity), then brings in real examples from recent calls with younger men dealing with distressing changes and the same burning question: “Will this ever go back to normal?”

This is an honest, compassionate conversation about:
why we can’t turn back time
what that means emotionally (guilt, shame, regret, fear)
and how acceptance (not resignation) can become the first real shift toward recovery.

You’re not broken. You’re not alone. And even if things don’t return exactly to “before,” you can move forward and reclaim your life.
In this episode, we cover:

✅ Why “I just want my old life back” is so common (and so heavy)
✅ The role of guilt, shame, and regret in pelvic pain loops
✅ A crucial distinction: Acceptance vs Resignation
✅ Why waiting to feel “100% better” can keep life on pause
✅ How to take the smallest step forward when everything feels impossible
✅ The invitation: growth, adaptation, self-compassion, and momentum

Chapters / Timestamps
00:00 – Intro: Pelvic Pain Matters + why this topic matters
00:52 – The “Time” mini-series: how long will this take?
01:31 – Today’s question: “Can I go back to how it was?”
03:54 – The first truth: we can’t turn back time
05:06 – Blame, shame, guilt: the “if only I hadn’t…” loop
06:07 – Karl’s story: what happened + why it shaped everything
08:29 – Fast forward: life after pelvic pain fear
10:00 – Real examples: young men asking “will it go back?”
11:54 – Perspective: we can’t undo life events, but we can learn
12:52 – The shift: Acceptance (and why it’s misunderstood)
15:09 – Acceptance vs resignation: an invitation to change
16:01 – Small steps toward big life goals
17:33 – CTA: connect, share, review + what’s next in the series


Comment below: What are you wishing you could “go back” to?
What’s one tiny step forward you could take this week?
Share this with someone who’s stuck in regret or fear right now.
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If you’re tired of going through pelvic pain alone, endlessly researching, or trying to piece everything together yourself, the Circle is where your recovery gets supported properly.

This is a private, off-social-media community for men who want:

✔ Real guidance (not random forum advice)
✔ A place to ask questions without embarrassment
✔ Consistent support during flare-ups and setbacks
✔ A structured way to learn, grow, and actually move forward
✔ Connection with men who get it — because they’re living it too

Inside the Circle, you’ll get:

🔹 Monthly success stories
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It’s the space I wish I had when I was in the darkest parts of pelvic pain.

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