#MenAsALLies

Описание: In this #MenAsALLies conversation, Laura Toop is joined by Dan Glyde, Mark Carolan and Matt Adamson for a grounded discussion about responsibility, silence, and staying present under pressure without self-abandonment.

This isn’t about blame or labels.
It’s about recognising how modern life, work and systems create conditions where silence becomes a coping strategy - and why that silence is rarely neutral.

Together, they explore how stress shows up as withdrawal, why speaking up can feel risky in a judgement-heavy culture, and what becomes possible when people experience spaces that feel safe enough to talk, listen, learn and act.

What we explore:
🔸 Silence as a stress response - not apathy
🔸 Why silence is never neutral, especially in workplaces and systems
🔸 The impact of withdrawal on trust, safety and relationships
🔸 Fear of “getting it wrong” and staying quiet
🔸 Responsibility carried without space - and where it leaks out
🔸 Moving beyond conversation into action
🔸 Why safety must come before certainty

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You are not nothing, and that is a very good place to start.
The answer to everything is all of us, and we’re stronger together.

#MenAsALLies #MensVoices #Leadership #Responsibility #EmotionalSafety #healthymasculinity

Learn more at www.togetherasallies.org

Connect on LinkedIn:

Laura Toop:   / laurabridgingthegap  
Mark Carolan:   / mark-carolan-67092a138  
Dan Glyde:   / danglydecoach  
Matt Adamson:   / mattadamsoncoaching  

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⏳ Timecoded summary:

⏱️ 00:00 – Welcome & setting the scene
Returning to conversation in a noisy, pressured world.

⏱️ 01:11 – Carrying responsibility with no space
How systems make it easy for voices to disappear.

⏱️ 02:01 – Silence isn’t “nothing”
Why what’s unspoken always leaks out somewhere.

⏱️ 03:21 – Silence as a stress response (Mark)
Withdrawal and going quiet as coping strategies.

⏱️ 05:06 – “I know you’re stressed because you’re really quiet”
How others notice silence before we do.

⏱️ 06:10 – The impact of silence on others
Trust, safety and assumption when someone withdraws.

⏱️ 06:49 – Silence increases risk (Matt)
Why lack of conversation affects safety.

⏱️ 07:34 – Silence and women’s safety
Self-policing and restriction when conversation disappears.

⏱️ 08:32 – Assumptions fill the gaps
Why silence amplifies misunderstanding.

⏱️ 09:07 – Silence hands power to the loudest voices (Dan)
The quiet majority and why nothing changes.

⏱️ 11:09 – Trust and youth voices
“How do I know who a trusted adult is?”

⏱️ 13:44 – Fear of saying the wrong thing
Judgement culture and staying silent to feel safe.

⏱️ 16:41 – Beyond words: conversation as action
Why talk must lead somewhere.

⏱️ 19:11 – Silence as complicity
The corporate parallel and shared responsibility.

⏱️ 21:38 – “You cannot not communicate”
Even silence sends a message.

⏱️ 25:20 – Connect before you correct
Creating conditions for honest dialogue.

⏱️ 26:49 – What changes when space feels safe?
Learning, empathy and shared humanity.

⏱️ 30:13 – Closing reflections
Why safety comes before certainty.

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