#76: The Engines That Built Your Success & Why They No Longer Serve You

Описание: Success isn’t built by willpower alone. It’s built by inner engines.

Fear that kept you sharp. Hunger that kept you moving. A need to prove yourself that refused to let you coast. A nervous system that could handle pressure without collapsing.

Those internal engines built your life.

But these engines don’t retire just because you’ve “made it.” They keep running in the background, unseen. And eventually, they start taking over and choosing for you.

You go along before you’ve asked whether you really want to. You push harder when nothing big is actually at stake. You treat intimacy like a problem to solve. You reach for the next target because stillness feels uncomfortable.

From the outside, life looks fine. On the inside, though, it doesn’t feel right.

This episode unpacks the idea of Inner Machinery: the internal systems that developed under pressure and then scaled into success. We look at how those systems formed, why they don’t update automatically, and how letting them take over can invisibly replace careful choice.

You’ll hear why trying to “fix” yourself usually backfires. Why self-improvement can turn into another engine. And why mastery at this stage looks less like adding new habits and more like restraint.

This isn’t about healing what’s broken. It’s about recognizing what’s still running.

If you suspect the very drive that got you here might now be shaping your life in ways you didn’t consciously choose, this episode is for you.

The question isn’t whether your engines are good or bad. The question is whether they still deserve to decide for you.

Show Highlights Include:

How inner pressure builds early success (and strangles long-term success and relationships) (0:44) Why high achievers are especially prone to letting their “Inner Machinery” dictate their life and undermine the intimacy in their relationships (6:42) The cold, hard truth about why rest feels threatening to your body (10:08) How the very traits and behaviors that turn you into a great leader also rips all cords of connection in your personal life (12:07) The “Conscious Restraint” technique for allowing your Inner Machinery to be heard without blindly following its lead (16:12) The counterintuitive way your self-development urge threatens the very systems that built your successful life (and why developing a “jazz urge” keeps you balanced and integrated) (17:41) One question to ask yourself often to build awareness and gain control of your Inner Machinery (21:46) For more about David Tian, go here:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/

Feeling like success in one area of life has come at the expense of another?

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