The Step-Dad Audit: A Therapist’s Guide to Vetting Partners as a Single Mom

Описание: Dating as a single mother isn't just about "chemistry"—it’s about protecting your ecosystem. As a therapist, school counselor, and a single mom who navigated a 5-year divorce, I know the pressure to find a partner can sometimes cloud our clinical judgment.

In today’s video, we are conducting a "Step-Dad Audit." We’re moving past the "nice guy" exterior to look at the clinical red flags you cannot afford to ignore. We discuss the "Ego Competition" trap, how to spot a "Mommy-Seeker," and why the "6-Month Rule" is your best tool for protecting your children’s emotional stability.

Your home is a sanctuary, and you are the gatekeeper. Let's make sure whoever you let in is a safe addition to your family’s journey.
In this video, we cover:

The "Ego Competition": Why some men feel threatened by your children.
Spotting the "Mommy-Seeker": Men looking for a "soft place to land" rather than a partnership.
The 3 Indicators of a "Safe" Man (Emotional Regulation, The Slow Burn, and Self-Sufficiency).
The Neutral Ground Protocol: How to introduce a partner to your kids the right way.

Reflective Journal Prompts:
Am I attracted to who he is today, or the "help" I hope he provides tomorrow?
Does he respect my hierarchy as a mother, or does he compete for my attention?
What part of me feels "lonely" enough to overlook a red flag?
Is his pace comfortable for me, or am I being rushed into "playing house"?
What does my children’s nervous system tell me when he is around?

Disclaimer: This video is for educational and entertainment purposes only and does not constitute a therapeutic relationship. If you are in crisis, please reach out to a local mental health professional or emergency services.

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