Dear Diary, how do I bring awareness to Phantom Pregnancy (Pseudocyesis) the rare mystery?

Описание: Created by Rovi Vrusamai, formerly known as Eltonetta Mystic — a woman who turned trauma into art, healing, and truth.

Lyricist: Rovi Vrusamai
Musicians & singers:
Digitally Composed, Arranged, Software-Arranged, Electronically Produced
Producer: Rovi Vrusamai

This song uses sensitive emotional themes. Some elements may be inspired by my personal experiences or the experiences of others, shared to raise awareness and encourage understanding. All names, locations, and identifying details have been changed to protect privacy and dignity. This work is not therapy and is not a substitute for professional mental health care, diagnosis, or treatment. If anything in this song brings up difficult emotions, please reach out to a qualified mental health professional or someone you trust. Please listen in a way that feels safe and supportive for you.

**See full lyrics in YouTube transcript**

Partial lyrics:

Because this is phantom pregnancy —
a condition that hides in plain sight,
misunderstood,
misjudged,
and rarely discussed.

And people say things —
uninformed, intrusive, harmful things.

I was standing in line at the food bank with my therapy baby doll when a man turned around. At first, he glanced at the carrier and said, “Oh, what a cute little baby.” But when he looked closer, he asked, “Wait… is that a doll?” I told him, “Yes, it’s a therapy tool.”

His smile immediately dropped.

He frowned and said, “Why don’t you just have a real baby instead of carrying around that creepy doll? Why don’t you adopt? Or work at a daycare? Or become a foster mom? Or get a pet?”

Then he turned back around, dismissive and rude.

None of what he said surprised me — people have said at least one of those comments to me before. But hearing someone run through the entire list in one breath made something click for me. It made me realize how urgently this topic needs awareness.

Even high‑end doll artists I’ve purchased from deal with the same ignorance in their comment sections. Recently, I even saw someone tell an artist, “Why don’t you just adopt a real baby? There are so many children who need a mother.”

That level of misunderstanding is exactly why I decided to speak up.

These are the top five intrusive and inappropriate comments people commonly blurt out, often from a place of ignorance:. Let’s analyze these statements and clarify why they are considered intrusive, inappropriate, and medically uninformed

Question number one,

 “Why don’t you just have a real baby?”

This question is inappropriate and medically uninformed.
You do not know a woman’s reproductive history,
her medical limitations,
her trauma,
her financial situation,
or her personal choices.
Phantom pregnancy is not about wanting a child.
It is a physiological condition,
and the therapy doll is used to alleviate symptoms,
not replace a baby.
Do not ask this question.
It is hurtful, invasive, and ignorant.

 Question number two,

“Why don’t you just adopt a real baby?”

Adoption is not a treatment plan.
Not every woman is eligible to adopt,
able to adopt,
or interested in adopting.
Again — phantom pregnancy is not rooted in a desire for motherhood.
It is a medical and psychological condition.
This question is insensitive and inappropriate.

Question number three,

“Why don’t you become a foster parent?”

Fostering is a major legal, emotional, and financial responsibility.
It requires stability, health clearance, and personal readiness.
Many women with phantom pregnancy
do not want to parent at all —
their symptoms are not about children.
Do not suggest fostering as a “solution.”
It is dismissive and uninformed.

Question number four, 

“Why don’t you work at a daycare?”

Phantom pregnancy is not cured
by being around children.
Some women experiencing it
do not want to work with children,
cannot work with children,
or are not medically cleared to do so.
This suggestion oversimplifies a complex condition
and minimizes the person’s lived experience.

Question number five,

“Why don’t you just get a pet instead of that creepy doll?”

Not everyone can have pets.
Not everyone wants pets.
And phantom pregnancy is not about nurturing something alive.
It is about managing involuntary physical symptoms.
A therapy doll is a clinical tool —
not a substitute for a child or an animal.
Comments like this are dismissive and uninformed.

So let this be awareness:


**See full lyrics in YouTube transcript**