My Husband Is Depressed, What Can I Do To Help Him?

Описание: Does your husband is depressed and you are wondering how you can help your husband? Paul shares with you some tips and advice that you could do to help your husband with his depression.

This is a tough one. We do come across this quite a bit. A lot of times, the depression is tied to alcohol and clearly, that's going to do it. Other times it's tied to some kind of medication that'll do it in those cases all you can do is remind him that that's probably what's going on but there's also a general depression that a lot of men feel in the world today. They're alienated, men are alienated. They are told, don't be a man based on political correctness. They're told that they can't do a lot of things they have to conform in a certain way and a lot of men are being pushed into a channel of life that doesn't feel good. They don't know how to express themselves.

What can you do?

We're not going to change the world here but you can change your marriage. You could recognize why your husband got married to you and why you, therefore, can be of use to him. A lot of people don't know this, Western psychology doesn't get into the things I'm going to share with you. So first of all, we all get married in order to be happier. We all get married in order to feel unconditional love. The happier part obviously comes from feeling unconditional love
and here's where it gets really difficult for men in particular. Women are more tied to their hearts naturally due to their gender. Nature has set them up to be nurturers, to get along with everybody. It's part of the survival drive but men don't have that.

Men are defenders, protectors, hunters. They don't have that connection to their heart and you know that. They don't even like to talk about things like love romance but men subconsciously are seeking that unconditional love that they got from their moms hopefully, but they're seeking
that unconditional love because they don't have access to it within themselves. When they get married there is an expectation on their part that their wife, and it's not an unreasonable expectation, it's very reasonable that their wife will provide this. In fact, your marriage vows take a look, "I promise to love you faithfully for the rest of our lives." i.e. unconditional love, but we live in a materially oriented society and instead of focusing on that happiness in the marriage instead of focusing on that love in the marriage we get into the mundane stuff.

We're even told that love is sex and sex is love which it's not so it becomes even worse. And so, the avenues of satisfying your husband start getting cut off but what you can do as his wife and I appreciate that you're seeking this information. It defines you as a loving wife. You could start putting aside all of these magazine articles that you've read in all these languages of love books and all that and focus on one thing.

Focus on expressing your love to your husband all the time in every way and don't do it by doing it mentally. Do it by doing it from the heart. Before you act think, "Am I coming from a place
of love?" Now, if you do this it's going to right away eliminate a lot of behaviors that shouldn't even be in your marriage at all. Behavior is like being critical, being assertive, confrontational,
condemning, challenging, all of these negative behaviors which are commonplace in the world in our society and accepted don't belong in your marriage. Think of your marriage as a vessel, a blue bubble. I like to think of it as a blue bubble, I even called the sacred space of marriage.

Within this blue bubble, there are only two people but it's a vessel. It contains what else you put in it so if you put in sweetness and it's only sweetness that you put in your environment of marriage is sweet but if you put in toxics like criticalness, condemnation, complaining it taints it. Get rid of those entirely and just focus on being from the heart. Again, you can check in with the mind what you're about to say or do but make sure it's coming from the heart. Another important part of this is what happens in the bedroom because of the stupid education that we all get in our society we've reduced intercourse to an animal thing and it's recreational.

This is where women are so far superior to men when they know what I'm about to tell you. Every action of your voice, your hands, your feet, your body everything when you're making love with your husband should be expressing love not there necessarily to turn him on. It's fine if you also want to turn him on as long as it is coupled with an expression of love.

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