Why You Shouldnt Take Anything Personally | The Four Agreements - Part 2

Описание: During the period of our education, or our domestication, we learn to take everything so incredibly personal. But the truth is that whenever people say things to or about you it’s not about you at all. It’s about them and their beliefs.

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Transcript:
What happens when you take things personally? You feel offended, and often your reaction is to defend your beliefs which leads to conflict. You will make something big out of something so little because you have the need to defend yourself.

Someone says something shitty about you, You take it personally, You’re offended, You defend yourself and your position, You fire back something about the other person, The other person takes THAT personally, gets offended, and says something meaner.
It goes on and on. Does this remind you of any arguments you’ve had in the past? I do... Let me know in the comments. All this does is drain your energy and it will probably make both parties feel resented, kind of like a bad hookup.

So if you’re in a situation like this, you have to realize that the things people say are really about them. Here’s an example: Someone calls you a tubby little ginger. Calling you that comes from their own wounds. If they were feeling great about life, they’d probably be calling you just freckles. They certainly wouldn’t take pleasure in putting you down. They’re just angry and sad, and want everyone else to feel angry and sad too. Nothing they think about you is really about you. It’s really about them and their reality. When you take things personally, you suffer for nothing and there’s already too much suffering in the world.

You shouldn’t even take your own opinions that seriously. It gets crowded in our minds, dealing with the opinions of others and with our judgments of ourselves. It’s a real problem when our internal dialogue gets too loud, crowded, and negative. Our overcrowded mind becomes a giant marketplace of agreements that don’t all agree with each other; too many voices are speaking at once, clouding our thinking. The way I personally like to look at it is this: you are not every thought in your brain. You are a mere curator of those thoughts. Deciding which thoughts to accept and which to reject. But that’s just my personal view and I’m an idiot. So let’s get back to the 2nd agreement.

When you make it a strong habit not to take anything personally, you avoid many upsets in your life. Your anger, jealousy, and envy will disappear.. The whole world can gossip about you, call you wanker, bellend, twat, twit, pillock, pikey, minger, tosser or any other insult stolen from Guy Richie films and if you don’t take it personally you are immune. You will only need to trust yourself to make responsible choices. You are only responsible for you. When you truly understand this and refuse to take things personally, you can hardly be hurt by the careless comments or actions of others. Then you can be in the middle of the hell of others and still experience inner peace and happiness.

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