Relationship words of wisdom for my former self |

Описание: A lot of issues we face in dating & relationships today begin with rushing intimacy. Especially, to have s*x. There's no shame in loving s*x! But there sure are a lot of downsides to rushing into it. And we see those downsides a lot today💔

You don't get to know a person. The person you had s*x with may be harmful—especially if you have a track record of attracting certain types.

Oxytocin(a bonding hormone, AKA “the love drug”) is being produced whether your Higher Self approves of a person or not. It does not discriminate & can distort perceptions.😍 😵‍💫

Oxytocin is produced in many ways: physical touch with others including hugging, cuddling, breastfeeding. Even by petting animals & hugging trees! By exercising & consuming foods like chia seeds, avocado, watermelon, chamomile tea, & more.

🔥WHAT SOURCES are you getting it from?🔥

You GET TO choose what you put your ATTENTION on, what you DEVOTE your ENERGY & PRESENCE to.🧘

In the worst cases, a relationship may be disempowering. If you're an empath, if you have an insecure attachment style or you've endured childhood trauma you may have a pattern of "attracting narcissists," being in relationships with toxic, dysfunctional dynamics, or settling for situationships.😵

Less disempowering ones may be SUBPAR, but not uplifting. That's not optimal either. You can do better if you want!📣

🤲 Maybe you've been trying to heal this. I was for many years. I learned "the hard way" to take my time because I suffered a lot! It became my CONSCIOUS ENDEAVOR to replace habits that didn't nourish or cultivate me with ones that did. I CROWDED OUT being non committal, rushing, promiscuous, settling, having sh*tty boundaries, trying to shame myself into change.

In the earlier stages of healing I learned the hard way HOW TO LOVE MYSELF. These days I constantly learn the soft ways🌷

To be truly COMMITTED to unconditional love. 💗 To hold space for the different parts of me & their perspectives. To claim MY OWN opinion & value myself. To DEVOTE to being the Conscious Creator of my life instead of The Victim of it.🎭

🌱 Healing is your BIRTHRIGHT! We expect growth spurts, but a lot happens through baby steps.👣

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Wonder - YVEN

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