Say No. Set Boundaries. Keep Your Relationships.

Описание: Ever replay a convo and think, “Cool… I said nothing… or I said it wrong”? This Quick Lift is your fix for saying the hard thing—without becoming the villain.

In this Loud & Lifted: Quick Lift recap, Betsy breaks down communication expert Sarita Maybin’s best tools for tough conversations. You’ll learn the AIR framework (Awareness–Impact–Request), how to sound firm without sounding finger-waggy, how to drop confidence-killing qualifiers, and how to stay curious when feedback stings—so you can speak up clearly, protect the relationship, and keep your authority intact.

Takeaways
Use AIR so you’re clear, not cruel. Name what you’re noticing, why it matters, and what you want instead.

Firm doesn’t mean fight-y. Swap “you” blame language for I/we ownership language.

Qualifiers shrink your authority. Stop pre-apologizing for your ideas (“This might be dumb but…”).

Try the twins: “I noticed…” + “I’m wondering…” Call out behavior without coming in hot.

When feedback stings, get curious—not defensive. Ask for examples and more context (with the right tone).


Quick Lift Action Steps (aka: what to do this week)
1) Write one AIR script (don’t overthink it).
Awareness: “I’m not sure if you’re aware, but I’ve noticed…”
Impact: “When that happens, the impact is…”
Request: “Going forward, I’d like to request…”

2) Upgrade one “you” sentence.
Instead of: “You need to be on time.”
Try: “I need you here on time so we can start without backtracking.”

3) Delete one qualifier from your vocabulary.
Replace: “This might not be important…”
With: “I recommend we…”

4) Use “I noticed / I’m wondering” once this week.
“I noticed the deadline passed, and I’m wondering what happened.”

5) Invite feedback (on purpose).
Ask: “What’s one way I can be a better manager next quarter?”
Then: “Can you share an example?” (no eye-rolls… even the invisible ones)