The Wounds Men Carry From Childhood | Indoda Ayikhali | Midday Connexion | Gagasi FM

Описание: What are the invisible wounds that men carry, especially those raised without their biological parents? In this profound "Indoda Ayikhali" discussion, mental health practitioner Ndabe Myeza joins DJ Sonic and Khaya Mthethwa to explore the deep emotional scars left by childhood abandonment and neglect.

Ndabe explains how being raised by caretakers—whether a gogo, an uncle, or a neighbor—can create a lifelong feeling of being unwanted. He details the devastating psychological impact: a man grows up with low self-esteem, an inability to be vulnerable, and a desperate need to find a family he never had, often leading him to rush into marriage.

The conversation uncovers the common behavioral patterns of these men, such as "over-loving" and becoming people-pleasers to earn affection, which makes them targets for emotional and financial abuse. Ndabe also provides a path to healing, emphasizing the need for intensive therapy and self-awareness to break the cycle.

TIMESTAMPS:
00:00 - Introduction: The Wounds Men Carry
00:56 - What it means to be raised by a "caretaker."
01:25 - The deep wounds of abandonment and neglect.
02:20 - The psychological impact: "Nobody wants me, I'm not good enough."
03:20 - The "father wound" and the "mother wound."
03:40 - Why these men rush to create a family they never had.
04:15 - The pattern of "over-loving" and becoming a people-pleaser.
05:30 - How a girl's first period can be traumatic without a mother.
07:46 - The tell-tale signs of a man carrying these wounds.
09:49 - A message for the partner: What can you do to help?
11:08 - The importance of couple's counseling to heal together.
14:52 - A caller's story: The damaging effects of over-parenting.

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