Why Men Can’t Forgive Themselves (And What It’s Costing Them)

Описание: Most men believe in forgiveness, they just don’t believe it applies to them.

In this episode of He’s a Guy, we sit down with Dalton, former MLB player turned police officer, to talk about the real reason men struggle with self forgiveness. We get into performance culture, guilt vs shame, identity after sports, emotional suppression, and the moments that haunt you years later.

If you’ve ever felt like “I gave it my all” still wasn’t enough, this one is for you.

Key takeaways:

Shame keeps men stuck

Self forgiveness is not weakness

Healing changes how you show up for others

Forgiving yourself doesn’t erase the past, it releases the sentence

Drop a comment: What haven’t you forgiven yourself for yet?

00:00 Cold open: “Most men believe in forgiveness…”
00:25 Intro, welcome back, subscribe
01:10 Meet Dalton, former MLB player, now policing
02:15 The side of policing people never see, mental health calls
04:05 Why men can’t forgive themselves
05:05 “You should’ve known better” and the regret that haunts you
06:30 Team Canada tryout story, the moment that stuck
08:05 Choices, no going back, live with your decisions
09:20 “I did my best” still doesn’t feel good enough
11:10 Achievements that still feel like nothing
11:30 Dalton: MLB wasn’t enough, “I didn’t play as long as I wanted”
13:20 Identity after baseball, processing 12 years
15:10 The role player realization and accepting reality
16:40 Emotional suppression in sports, even kill becomes your personality
18:30 Tears, reflection, and learning to feel again
20:05 Tychon: winning Big Brother didn’t feel earned
22:10 Identity crisis after winning, “Now what?”
24:10 Letting go vs staying guarded
26:20 Talking to yourself like you’d talk to your son
27:30 Therapy, coaches, tools, then doing the real work
29:10 “I feel free now, I don’t carry baggage”
30:15 Why men are performance based
32:00 Status, respect from men, attraction, and showing value
34:10 The danger of living as a performance
36:00 Sacrifice vs losing yourself
38:15 Athletes and public worth, pressure, judgment, playing for a country
41:10 Why hitting a baseball is basically impossible
43:00 Fans, hate, then love, separating identity from performance
45:20 Dream you buried but never forgave yourself for
47:10 Mentorship and guidance, what most athletes never get
49:20 Dalton’s path to the MLB, opportunity plus obsession
53:10 Coaches vouching for you in rooms you’re not in
55:30 Final takeaways: shame, self forgiveness, release the sentence
57:00 Guys Night promo, last Thursday of every month
58:15 Wrap up, like, comment, subscribe