Relationship power balance

Описание: Being good at relationships isn’t just a nice idea—a “good if you have
that” item. It goes beyond important and vital; for me, it is the meaning
of life. Power balance in relationships is an energy gain that makes you
feel satisfied, happy, and abundant.
Many years ago, I wasn’t very good at relationships. My challenge was
that my personal power was too big, unwieldy, and out of balance. I didn’t
know how to align my emotional, physical, and mental resources. I had
difficulty getting along with people. If they were strong and confident
it usually was fine, but if they were “wimpy” I had no patience for their
whining and complaining.
My impact was of the Chef Gordon Ramsay kind. You know who he
is? I remember when I was in my twenties going to a party, and taking it
upon myself to rearrange the chairs on the deck. Not everyone could sit
comfortably the way the deck chairs were set up. I thought I was doing a
good thing. “Move this chair here, move that one there. Isn’t that better?”
Now, we could make maximum use of the space, and everyone could have
a comfortable seat.
The silent response to my behavior was clear when I was the only
one left sitting on the deck, and everyone else had gone inside. I was so
embarrassed. In the moment, I was clueless that I was perceived by some
people as really negative or bossy.
When I was in Peru with my shamanic teacher, she told me: “Linda, you’re going to have impact.” I was
thrilled, but only for a moment. Then, she finished, “You need to decide
what that impact will be, and what it will look like.” She had seen me in
action.
I’m pleased that things have gotten better. I got to know my personal
power intimately, how it feels, what makes it big, and what makes it small.
I studied the impact of others. I saw that doing a little thing can make a
big difference in someone’s life.
Once I understood how to manage my energy and power, I could be
my authentic self; I was accepted more, I was criticized less, and I experienced
much healthier relationships.
You have many relationships that you can explore: relationships to
yourself, your emotions, your body, your mind, your spirituality, and
your sexual self. You have relationships with the people in your family,
your life, and your work.
Decide who you want to be in your relationships—and how you want
to feel.
Can you speak your truth in all of your relationships? How about some
or any? Perhaps you can speak the truth in some relationships—while
not in others or not to the same level. Do you get together with a certain
friend because saying “no” would create a conflict? Do you have some

friends to whom you can say that you would rather stay home at night?
They’re okay with that, and they understand? How does your vision of
being a powerful woman coexist in your relationships?
I once knew a woman who was having an affair with a man who was
engaged to another woman. For some, this may be astounding; they may
try to apply their personal beliefs and values to understand why he would
maintain his engagement with one woman while having an affair with
another. Of course, I asked the woman why she was in the relationship.
The woman’s response was this, “He’s a wonderful man and a great lover;
he’s just not very good at relationships!”
Relationships are closest to you when they have the greatest effect on
you and how you live your life. The people in your life give you energy
and/or you give them energy because you have varying attachments
to each other.
#zestyourlife #power #shamanism