Why You Feel Like a Fraud During Jewish Conversion

Описание: Feel like you’re faking it during the Jewish conversion process? You’re not alone - and you’re not broken. Imposter syndrome is baked into the structure of conversion, where acceptance is conditional, power is asymmetrical, and the expectations are often unspoken.

In this video, I share 7+ hacks I’ve learned from my own journey (13 years post-Orthodox conversion!) to help you spot imposter syndrome, talk back to it, and build your belonging one step at a time.

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📚 Books
Choosing a Jewish Life by Diamant: https://amzn.to/4mc4UrF
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📖 Prayerbooks
Below are all Ashkenazi tradition because that is the most used in America.
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*Who Am I?*
Hi, I’m Kochava - a Jewish convert who’s been helping people navigate the conversion process with clarity, compassion, and real-life support since 2010.

Whether you're just starting out, stuck somewhere in the messy middle, or figuring out post-mikvah Jewish life, you're in the right place.

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Timestamps
00:00 – Intro: Why imposter syndrome hits so hard during conversion
01:22 – How it shows up: doubt, comparison, self-censorship
03:12 – It’s not just in your head – it’s power dynamics
05:08 – Hack #1: Imposter syndrome thrives in silence
06:54 – Hack #2: Find safe people (and avoid spiritual bypassers)
10:42 – Hack #3: Jewish stories of imperfection (Rabbi Akiva!)
13:55 – Hack #4: Practice “acting Jewish” – awkwardness is okay
15:36 – Hack #5: Interrupt the comparison spiral
17:08 – Hack #6: Write your own kavanot (intentions)
19:40 – Hack #7: Track your growth like evidence in a court case
22:43 – Hack #8: The truth — imposter syndrome doesn’t disappear
25:00 – You’re not an imposter. You’re becoming.