Apologies Aren’t Fixing Your Fights Here’s Why

Описание: Apologies aren’t fixing your fights — and it’s not because you don’t care.
In this video, I break down why saying “I’m sorry” often doesn’t land in conflict, why repair attempts fail even when both partners are trying, and what actually makes repair work in healthy relationships.
Most couples believe conflict resolution is about saying the right words. But effective repair requires more than an apology — it requires understanding, timing, and structure.
If you’ve ever felt like:
• “We keep having the same fight”
• “I apologized — why is this still an issue?”
• “Nothing ever really gets resolved”
• “We try to move on but it doesn’t stick”
This video explains what’s missing.
Using principles from Gottman research on repair attempts, I walk through:
– Why apologies alone don’t resolve conflict
– The most common repair mistake couples make
– Why repair must include understanding the impact
– What healthy repair actually looks like
– A simple tool you can use immediately
Conflict isn’t the problem.
Unsuccessful repair is.
If you’re ready for clarity instead of guessing, you can:
✔ Take the Relationship Assessment
✔ Work with me in couples therapy
✔ Book a consultation
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Margarita Kogan, LCSW
Couples Therapist
Helping couples move from reactive cycles to stable connection.
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