Finding a Partner, Together 34 Years | Male Sexual Abuse

Описание: "I think now, in hindsight, that it's what I needed and was looking for, you know, was safety...All I had was tumult up until that point."

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An enduring human mystery: how does a child suffer horrific abuse at the hands of his own family members and yet somehow preserve within himself the capacity to experience intimacy and attachment?

Michael is a walking example of this mystery. He and his husband have celebrated their 34thanniversary. Together they have raised a wonderful daughter. And yet the first decade of his life was a cataclysm of misery. His mother was viciously physically abusive. His three older brothers took turns raping Michael, for years. The sexual torment ended only when Michael, age 13, suddenly found within himself the channel to his reservoir of rage. It must have been compelling. His brothers backed away, and left Michael to the decades of inner suffering and healing, healing and inner suffering.

There is no easy course, no magic involved in healing from such unrelenting abuse. It is work, and it requires persistence. And that is something that abounds in Michael. Persistence to spend decades in therapy, plumbing the depths of his pain, finding the places where his pain still lurks, where his pain still interferes with the life he now wishes to live. A life of intimacy, of connection, and a life devoted to helping children who suffer the kinds of abuses that he suffered. Kids who are looked over, or away from.

For many years Michael tapped into his anger and persistence and applied them in the service of children caught in Los Angeles’ massive foster system. He is an unrelenting, and often uncompromising, advocate. And unapologetic.

Today, Michael channels that drive in the service of children worldwide. Children who need an education, need books, need computers, need water or electricity in their villages, or just a friend to hear their stories in Indonesia and Central America.

Perhaps one answer to that enduring human mystery is that profound trauma and its thousand scars cannot be erased, but they can be embraced and transformed.

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1in6 is a national nonprofit organization supporting the estimated 1 in 6 men who have experienced sexual abuse or assault. At 1in6, we believe that the tens of millions of male survivors who have had such experiences deserve to live whole, meaningful lives, but we know that isn’t always easy. Entrenched myths about masculinity, the stigma and silence around the issue, and a lack of male-specific services are just some of the barriers men face to seeking help and addressing emotional wounds in a healthy way.

Men who feel unsafe to disclose and seek help may risk exposure to social dysfunction and mental and physical health issues, including but not limited to: depression, PTSD, suicidal ideation, addiction, isolation, fear of intimacy, confusion about sexuality, interpersonal violence, and feelings such as anger, guilt, shame, and distrust.

We help men overcome the negative effects of past experiences and reclaim their lives by offering information, outreach, and free and anonymous services for men and their loved ones, as well as service providers working with men.

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