Avoiding conflicts in relationship

Описание: We hear from too many couples these days where either husband or wife one day simply walked out! Probably exacerbated by all the Covid-related stress of loss of income, being cooped up indoors, having to take care of kids 24-7.

Often, when one person says, "I'm done!" and walks out, the other person is completely shell-shocked and had not seen it coming at all. That's obviously a terrible situation ... perhaps you've been there?

When we dig a little deeper, it always turns out that there had been many little conflicts, arguments, and hurts along the way, typically for years. It's just that they chose not to deal with those conflicts, or tried but didn't have the skills to see it through.

I myself am by personality a conflict avoider. I used to avoid upsets and conflicts like the plague. Whenever a partner would get upset or hurt, I would find someone to either appease the situation or get out of it. If necessary, I'd bolt!

But the temporary relief I accomplished by smoothing out or avoiding the conflict always came to bite me in the ass, every single time.

And that's what these couples are telling us too. Ultimately the price we pay for not dealing with conflicts is that our relationship cracks under the pressure. But even if we don't go all the way to divorce, every unresolved hurt or conflict still creates a barrier between us and makes a little dent in our trust and connection.

We have developed a host of tools and skills to help ourselves and our clients with conflicts. We've actually come to believe that conflicts are a gift to our relationships. They're signs that something needs to change; that something wants to be improved. (Our Level 2 workshop is even called Gift of Conflict, see more here: https://loveworkssolution.com/gift-of...)

When you successfully navigate conflicts, you make your relationship stronger, every time. Just like our immune system is better prepared for the next round of illness when it's developed antibodies from the last illness, our relationship is better able to withstand the next conflict if we deal with the first one in a good way.

See our blog post for more stories of couples and suggestions for what you can do: https://loveworkssolution.com/blog/av...

Also see our 90-minute mini-workshop couples on how to rebuild trust: https://loveworkssolution.com/how-to-...




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