Ep: 42 | She Didn’t Feel Protected | How Men Can Rebuild Safety and Trust | w Nafeesah Bashir

Описание: In this raw and emotional episode of the Pain Into Purpose Podcast, DB and Coach Fee have a deeply personal conversation about what it means for women to feel safe, protected, and valued in relationships.

Coach Fee vulnerably shares a real-life story of betrayal and unprotection when her partner failed to defend her after a friend crossed a boundary in her own home. Together, they unpack the lingering trauma that moments like this create, and how emotional safety and accountability can rebuild trust between men and women.

Darrin challenges men to step up not just with words, but with integrity, action, and presence reminding us that real protection is both physical and emotional.

This episode is about healing the wound of unprotection, learning from past pain, and rewriting what healthy masculinity looks like in real time.

⏱️ YouTube Timestamp Outline

0:00 – Welcome to the Pain Into Purpose Podcast
0:07 – Darrin Bedford and Coach Fee open up about emotional protection
0:14 – Introducing the topic: when women don’t feel protected in relationships
0:28 – Coach Fee begins sharing a personal story
0:43 – A morning that changed everything
1:04 – “I was cooking breakfast then it happened”
1:32 – The shocking moment: a friend crosses a boundary
2:11 – The immediate reaction: disbelief and confusion
2:24 – Expecting protection and getting silence
3:02 – “They left together.” the heartbreak of betrayal
3:34 – Darrin reacts: what real protection looks like
4:12 – Balancing growth and anger why violence isn’t the answer
4:45 – Processing trauma through therapy and patience
5:14 – “I was mad at myself for not reacting”
5:57 – Darrin explains the difference between hindsight and healing
6:33 – Why unresolved moments replay in our minds
7:08 – The absence of justice and reassurance
8:16 – “You left me to process it alone” the pain of abandonment
9:18 – Feeling unprotected equals feeling unseen
10:02 – The lasting impact: “I still don’t feel safe”
10:34 – The desire for one solid, trustworthy partner
11:08 – Darrin’s reflection: learning from real stories
12:01 – Identifying trauma triggers and emotional safety
12:45 – “I need a man I can feel protected around.”
13:08 – The truth about physical vs emotional protection
14:03 – Sponsor Break: Choice Catering (The Real Garlic Noodles of the Bay)
14:45 – Why size doesn’t equal strength heart matters more
15:14 – Redefining what makes a woman feel safe
16:00 – The absence of closure and validation
16:18 – Coach Fee’s tears and her strength to keep sharing
17:07 – Why women wear masculine energy to survive
18:05 – “I should’ve been able to stay feminine and feel safe.”
18:58 – The cost of losing trust in men
19:44 – Darrin’s reassurance: “You’re safe here.”
20:18 – The power of talking about what we hide
21:08 – How silence keeps trauma alive
21:43 – Building emotional safety through friendship and openness
22:31 – Growing closer to her brother and finding safety again
23:32 – “I’m slowly opening the blinds.” metaphor for emotional healing
24:19 – Self-awareness, intention, and the process of breaking walls
25:10 – Darrin on how women can surround themselves with protectors
26:14 – “You are loved. You are worthy. You are protected.”
26:49 – How men can take action and show up differently
27:12 – Call to men: don’t stand by protect, provide, and act
27:45 – Final message: Be a man who makes women feel safe
27:59 – Closing words: “We love y’all. Peace.”