Narcissistic Gaslighting | Gaslighting Malayalam | Emotional Manipulation Malayalam |

Описание: The gas lighter uses suggestion, insinuation, dismissal, denial, and false claims to erode another person’s belief in his or her own ability to interpret, judge, remember, and/or otherwise make sense of situations. Whereas a smear campaign is intended to erode someone’s credibility with others, gaslighting is meant to erode someone’s credibility with him- or herself. The narcissistic personality gaslights others fundamentally to weaken their position and strengthen her/his own. Because narcissists may be careful to gaslight within the scope of plausible deniability and away from
witnesses, recognizing their abuse and calling it out can be difficult. Gaslighting enables the narcissist to:
1. Appear right
2. Appear reasonable
3. Feel superior
4. Play the victim
5. Assert control
6. Win arguments
7. Shift blame
8. Get her/his way
9. Avoid accountability
10. Get away with abuse
Gaslighting may be as simple as denying things that were said or claiming things happened when they didn’t. After an abusive incident, a gaslighting narcissist may dismiss the abuse as unintended or harmless, outright deny that the abuse took place, or blame the abused. A cheating spouse, for example, may dismiss and deny evidence of an affair while accusing his or her partner of doing the cheating. Gas lighters often use you statements. They say things like the following:
• “It’s always something with you.”
• “You’re being paranoid.”
• “You’re too sensitive.”
• “Why do you doubt me all the time?”
• “You don’t believe in me.”
• “You’re exaggerating again.”
• “You can’t possibly believe that.”
• “You’re always confused.”
• “Can’t you let go of the past?”
• “You’re being irrational.”
• “You need a shrink.”
• “You have no sense of humor.”
• “I can’t help it if you can’t remember anything.”
• “What does it take to win with you?”
• “You’re crazy.”
• “You never listen.”
• “Can you hear yourself?”
• “Can’t you take a joke?”
• “You started it.”
• “You never let anything go.”
• “Whatever you say.”
• “You’re naive.”
• “You need to get over it already.”
• “You made me do that.”
• “It’s not my fault that you don’t remember anything.”
Parents in narcissistic families often gaslight their children about their personality, feelings, past behavior, and/or relationships as a way to disarm them, distort their self-image, and create self-doubt. Scapegoated children are typically sent the message in direct and indirect ways that their point of view is without merit, their feelings are unfounded, and they are to blame for family problems. Such parents may say things like the following:
• “I try to teach you, but you never learn.”
• “You don’t really feel that.”
• “You’ve always been angry.”
• “There is no pleasing you.”
• “You have unreasonable expectations.”
• “You never did learn to let things go.”
• “You’re an impossible child.”
• “You’re the reason your father/mother is never around.”
• “Good girls/boys don’t act like you do.”
• “I don’t know how you got this way.”
• “Your sister/brother would never say that.”
• “I do everything for you, and it’s never enough.”
Gaslighting may happen sporadically or occur routinely in a systematic process. In the most extreme cases, a gas lighter may be conducting a calculated, ongoing campaign to make another person believe s/he is losing her/his hold on reality. The best defense against gaslighting is a secure belief in your own perceptions, something that can be difficult to achieve if you have been raised with undermining messages. However, once you understand what gaslighting is, how it works, and how to recognize it in your relationships, you can begin to separate yourself from the patterns. Although the narcissist will rarely if ever admit to gaslighting, once you stop reacting to it and show that it has no power over you, it is likely to end