How to Stay Yourself in a Relationship (Without Pulling Away or Losing Connection)

Описание: How do you stay yourself in a relationship without pulling away or losing emotional connection? Many couples struggle with balancing independence and closeness — especially when one partner needs space, and the other needs reassurance.

In this video, relationship therapist and coach Kathleen explores how healthy relationships grow through interdependence, not emotional fusion or extreme independence. You’ll learn why the pursue–withdraw cycle happens, how attachment patterns shape closeness, and what emotional maturity looks like in long-term relationships.

This video covers:

How to balance individuality and intimacy in a relationship

Why independence vs. dependence is a false choice

The pursue–withdraw cycle and how couples get stuck

Emotional differentiation and staying connected through conflict

How to repair disconnection and rebuild emotional safety

What healthy interdependence really looks like

If you’ve ever worried about being “too much” or “too distant,” this conversation will help you understand your patterns and move toward a deeper, more secure connection.

This video is for you if you’re navigating:
healthy relationships, emotional intimacy, relationship anxiety, couples communication, attachment styles, boundaries in relationships, long-term relationships, relationship growth, staying yourself in love

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YouTube Chapter Timestamps

00:00 – How to stay yourself in a relationship
00:28 – Independence vs. closeness: why this balance is so hard
01:05 – What we were taught about love (and why it doesn’t work)
01:55 – The pursue–withdraw cycle in relationships
02:30 – Why neither partner is “wrong”
03:00 – Why independence isn’t the real goal
03:35 – From emotional fusion to differentiation
04:20 – Growth happens through connection
05:05 – How relationships trigger our deepest fears
05:45 – Finding the balance between “I” and “We”
06:00 – Know your default relationship pattern
06:35 – Learning to tolerate differences
07:10 – Taking accountability for your part
07:45 – Repair: the most important relationship skill
08:20 – Moving from power struggle to partnership
09:00 – What healthy interdependence looks like
10:00 – Love without losing yourself