Missing Them and Hating Them at the Same Time — What’s Going On?

Описание: After leaving a narcissistic or controlling relationship, many women are surprised by the emotional chaos that follows.

You might feel a pull toward them — even though you know who they were.
You might feel anger, disgust, or a desire for justice or “karma.”
You might grieve, feel shame, relief, confusion… sometimes all at once.

In this live stream, we’ll talk about why these contradictory emotions can coexist — and why none of them mean there is something wrong with you.

We’ll explore:

Why the pull can last after leaving (trauma bond & intermittent reinforcement)

Why anger and disgust can be protective, not toxic

The emotional aftermath of leaving through the lens of grief

Shame, relief, longing, confusion — and how to hold all of it without self-judgment

This is a space to understand what’s happening inside you after leaving — and to realize that this messy phase is a normal part of healing, not a setback.

💛 You’re welcome to listen quietly or share in the chat — whatever feels safest for you.


📖 Free Resources (Pay-What-You-Want)
My resources are free to download, with an option to make a donation if you’d like to support the channel:

📕 E-book: How Could He?
(The Truth About Abusive Relationships & The Path To Recovery)
👉 https://lightoverthebridge.gumroad.co...

📝 The Bridge Journal — 7 Days of Clarity After Leaving a Controlling Relationship
👉 https://lightoverthebridge.gumroad.co...

🎥 Free Video: Understanding the Trauma Bond
If you want a clear explanation of what a trauma bond is, why it forms, and why leaving can feel so difficult, you can watch the free video here:
👉    • Why You Can’t Let Go (The Trauma Bond Expl...  

🧭 Optional Support: Trauma Bond Breaker Kit
If you’re actively trying to break a trauma bond and want something more **structured and practical**, I’ve created a small Trauma Bond Breaker Kit with:
• 6 short, guided videos
• grounding audio for urges and anxiety
• printable + fillable worksheets

It’s designed to support detachment gently, at your own pace — not to pressure or rush healing.
👉 https://lightoverthebridge.gumroad.co...

📘 Book I have found helpful:
🔗 These are affiliate links (small commission supports the channel at no extra cost to you):

Why Does He Do That?: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men by Lundy Bancroft Based on over 30 years of work with abusive men and their families, this book explains how abuse often involves deliberately creating confusion and hiding harmful behaviour behind excuses. 👉 https://amzn.to/3YPOlrl

In Control: Dangerous Relationships and How They End in Murder by Jane Monckton Smith 👉 https://amzn.to/46k04CB


💛 Support the Channel
If my videos have helped you and you’d like to support this work, you can buy me a tea here:
👉 https://coff.ee/lightoverthebridge

This channel is for the women who need it most — and your support helps me keep creating free content. Thank you. 💛

📩 Contact (Support & Questions Only)
Do you need support or have a question related to the topics I talk about?
You can email me at: [email protected]

I’m not interested in SEO offers or business proposals, and I don’t have time to answer those emails.
I’m spending my free time supporting women in need and want to keep this channel clear of outside influence.
Thank you for understanding.
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⚠️ Disclaimer
The content on this channel is for educational purposes and survivor peer support only.
It is not a substitute for individual medical, mental health, legal advice, or personalised safety planning.
Please reach out to a qualified professional and/or local support services for personalised help, especially if you are in danger or unsure how to stay safe.
If you are in danger, contact your local domestic violence hotline, shelter, or emergency services.




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