I want to forgive, but don’t know where to start.

Описание: When is anger appropriate? How does humility play a part in forgiveness? What about those who cling to revenge? Is there an optimal time for forgiveness? How do I deal with guilt? When do I need to set a healthy boundary? How do we heal trauma?

The participants in this conversation did not hold back. Through their tough and insightful questions we had a rich dialogue about the deep emotional processing involved in forgiving. I’m honored to share excerpts from my conversation with Mary Noble of Feminenza and participants of the Erasmus+ project “A Resilient Life,” where I answer their questions about all the ways forgiveness can release emotional burdens and lead to healing, hope, resilience, and freedom.

This was such a wide-ranging conversation with so many wonderful forgiveness stories — don’t miss the complete video (link below). This conversation explores the vital role forgiveness plays in our personal healing and features a rich dialogue with participants from Kenya, Kosovo, Israel, and across Europe.

FEMINENZA INTERNATIONAL
Feminenza International is a global non-profit organization focused on women's development, trauma healing, and education in forgiveness co-founded by Mary Noble, who has been a guest of mine in previous episodes.

Feminenza International:
https://www.feminenza.org/

Watch the complete conversation:
“Forgiveness—A call with Dr. Eileen Borris and Erasmus+ participants”
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More about the projects of “A Resilient Life”:
https://www.feminenza.org/a-resilient...

For more information about Feminenza programs:
[email protected]

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Dr. Eileen Borris is a clinical and political psychologist who has pioneered the concept of political forgiveness on the individual, community and national level. She has addressed the United Nations and has worked for over 30 years to build peace in areas of conflict around the world, including Rwanda, South Africa, Liberia, Nigeria, Ethiopia, and the Middle East. Eileen is the author of “Finding Forgiveness: A 7 Step Program for Letting Go of Anger and Bitterness” and the creator of Healing the Divide, a program that trains leaders and other individuals interested in applying the principles of political forgiveness to transform their lives and create social change.

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Timestamps

00:00 Forgiveness is inner healing, not about the other person
01:30 Meet Dr. Eileen Borris and Mary Noble
03:16 Revenge: The “revenge story” exercise and grieving what was lost
05:04 What forgiveness is—and isn’t
05:44 Humility and anger
08:23 Trauma healing and forgiveness timing
11:47 Stories of transformation
16:12 “I want to forgive, but where do i start?”
18:21 From pragmatic to spiritual: deeper layers of forgiveness
25:57 Hope vs. authoritarianism
27:43 Everyday forgiveness: boundaries, verbal abuse, and the guilt cycle
31:16 Closing and season 2 preview: New co-host and new focus