He’s Not Immature, He’s Abusive: Why Narcissists Don’t “Grow Out of It” with Dr. Les Carter | S3EP8

Описание: Is he immature… or is he benefiting from the dynamic?

Lisa sits down with Dr. Les Carter (Surviving Narcissism) to unpack why so many women confuse immaturity with abusiveness, and why that confusion keeps them stuck for years.

They explore:
– Why narcissists avoid self-examination
– The role of power in toxic relationships
– DARVO and reactive abuse
– Why “he’s traumatized” isn’t the whole story
– And why sustained change is rare without deep internal motivation

This conversation challenges the comforting myth that he just “doesn’t know better.”

If you’ve ever wondered whether you’re the problem, or why therapy didn’t fix him, this episode will give you language for what you lived.

👇 Comment below: When did you realize it wasn’t immaturity, it was a pattern?

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Abusive relationship educator and trauma bond recovery expert. Certified Trauma Recovery Coach, creator of the Break & Rebuild Method, and author of four abuse-recovery books. Host of Relationships Uncensored Podcast.

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00:00 – “He’s Just Immature”
01:42 – Meet Dr. Les Carter
03:58 – Immaturity vs. Narcissism
06:21 – The Defensive Fortress
09:47 – Blame-Shifting and Excuse-Making
12:15 – The Wear-Down Strategy
15:02 – Why You Leave Conversations Exhausted
18:26 – How Narcissists Provoke Emotional Reactions
21:14 – Reactive Rage vs. Mutual Toxicity
24:03 – The Trap of Trying to Be Logical
27:18 – When Accountability Never Lands
30:42 – The “Nonetheless” Technique
33:55 – Breaking the Circular Argument
37:08 – Reclaiming Emotional Stability
40:26 – Trusting Your Own Perception Again
43:51 – Why You Can’t Fix Immaturity
46:18 – Final Takeaways: Seeing the Pattern Clearly