The Hidden Cost of Permissive Parenting (Why Kids Actually Need Discipline)

Описание: If the word discipline makes you cringe—because it feels harsh, cold, or “not the kind of parent you want to be”—this episode is for you.

In this episode of **Confessions of a Parent Coach**, I talk about the *hidden cost of permissive parenting*—and why kids don’t actually feel safer when adults avoid holding boundaries.

We tend to assume that when a child is anxious, overwhelmed, or controlling, what they need is *more comfort*. More reassurance. More flexibility.

But sometimes… what they actually need is **more leadership**.

In this episode 154 of Confessions of a Parent Coach, I unpack:

Why *authoritative parenting* (attunement + discipline) is the gold standard
How permissive parenting can unintentionally increase *kid anxiety*
Why kids become *bossy or controlling* when adults don’t take charge
The difference between discipline and punishment (this matters)
How loving limits help kids feel *grounded, secure, and okay in the world*

I also share a real client story that perfectly illustrates how a lack of boundaries—despite tons of love—can leave a child feeling like they’re responsible for running their own life. (Spoiler: that’s terrifying for a kid.)

This episode is especially for:

Parents who hate conflict
Parents who worry about being “too strict”
Parents who feel like they’re doing everything right emotionally… but their child still seems anxious or dysregulated

You’re not doing anything wrong.
You may just be carrying more than your kid should be carrying.

Free Resources + Next Steps

📘 *Free Workbook:* Getting Kids to Listen the First Time
👉 bit.ly/kidswholisten

📞 *Book a Parent Support Call*
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If this episode made you feel seen—or gently called out—consider liking, subscribing, or sharing it with a parent who’s quietly exhausted from carrying it all.

You don’t need to be perfect.
You just need to be the grownup. 💛