Your Friends Don’t Get It | Edmonton Life Coach Explains the Loneliness Phase of Growth

Описание: This video is brought to you by The Momentum Coach, formerly known as Seeding the Lead. Based in Edmonton, Alberta, The Momentum Coach is led by Adam Melnyk, a transformation and performance coach who helps individuals break patterns, build momentum, and create meaningful change in their lives.

Adam works with clients who feel stuck, disconnected, or unsure of their next step—often during periods of deep personal growth. His coaching focuses on identity shifts, discipline, mindset, and building the social and internal structures needed to move forward with confidence. Learn more at 👉 https://seedingthelead.com/

Why Personal Growth Feels Lonely (And Why That’s Normal)

In this video, Adam Melnyk—The Momentum Coach—talks about a stage almost everyone encounters when they start changing their life: the loneliness phase.

This phase happens when the person you are becoming is no longer compatible with the person you used to be.

As your goals, habits, and identity change, your existing friendships and social circles often stop fitting. People who once made sense in your life may no longer understand you—or support the direction you’re heading. As those connections fade, a void forms, and the experience can feel isolating, confusing, and painful.

Adam explains that while this phase is uncomfortable, it must happen for real growth to occur. There is no fixed timeline. For some, it lasts months. For others, it can last years. But avoiding it or going backward often means staying stuck.

Adam’s Personal Experience With the Loneliness Phase

Adam shares his own experience starting at age 24. He made a decision to stop spending his time playing video and board games and instead focus on:
Building a business
Training at the gym
Traveling
Attending events and meeting new people

As his priorities changed, his time with old friends naturally declined. Eventually, his support network disappeared entirely. This loneliness phase lasted about a year before he intentionally built a new, aligned social circle.

Why People Revert Backward

Adam also explains why many people—especially those recovering from addiction—struggle during the loneliness phase.

When substances are removed, friends who still use often have to go as well. The pain of being alone, combined with the difficulty of building new relationships, causes many people to revert back to old behaviors rather than endure the discomfort of growth.

The loneliness isn’t the problem—the lack of tools to navigate it is.

How to Navigate the Loneliness Phase

Adam outlines practical ways to move through this phase faster and with less damage:

Acceptance: Acknowledge that some people will fall away as you change

Keep Moving Forward: Stopping leaves you stuck between who you were and who you’re becoming

Build a New Network Intentionally: Learn social skills, be open-minded, and be willing to fail

Seek Coaching: A coach helps you problem-solve, stay grounded, and shorten the phase

Adam also explains that each new level of growth brings another loneliness phase, but it gets easier every time. Once you’ve built the tools and confidence to create new connections, these phases may only last weeks instead of years.

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