A Therapist Told Me Why Commitment Scares People (It's Not Fear)

Описание: Most people think commitment issues come down to fear. But licensed therapist Mario Valcin says the real answer goes much deeper — and it starts long before you ever enter a relationship.
In this episode of The Modern Disciple Podcast, Alex sits down with Mario to unpack the real psychology behind modern relationship struggles, attachment styles, and what healthy, God-centered love actually looks like in practice.
What you'll learn:

Why commitment issues are rarely about fear (and what they're actually about)
How dating apps are designed to keep you swiping, not settling down
The difference between avoidant and anxious attachment styles
How your family of origin silently shapes who you choose and how you love
Red flags to watch for in dating — before you're too deep
Why "I fell out of love" is not what most people think it means
Practical tools therapists use to rebuild struggling marriages


⏱️ Timestamps

00:00 — Introduction & Mario's background
00:31 — Why are people afraid of commitment?
08:56 — FOMO and self-sabotage in relationships
10:30 — The problem with dating apps
17:53 — What is God's design for relationships?
26:19 — Marriage as a mirror
43:51 — Red flags to watch for in dating
56:49 — What to do if you're thinking about leaving
01:01:34 — Closing prayer

🎙️ Mario Valcin is a Licensed Mental Health Counselor based in South Florida, specializing in individual therapy, couples counseling, anxiety, and depression.
📍 In-person & virtual sessions available — Miami Gardens Counseling

Related topics: marriage counseling, relationship advice, attachment styles, Christian relationships, couples therapy, commitment issues, dating advice, faith and relationships, South Florida therapist, mental health podcast
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