Self-Esteem Starts With Self-Trust (Not Confidence)

Описание: Self-Esteem Starts With Self-Trust (Not Confidence)

Many of us believe that self-esteem comes from confidence, performance, or liking ourselves all the time.
But real self-esteem doesn’t grow from intensity or self-improvement.
It grows from something much quieter: self-trust.
In this video, I share how self-trust slowly rebuilt itself in me after years of living with shame, self-pressure, and the belief that I wasn’t good enough. I talk about why self-esteem is not about pushing through discomfort — but about learning to stay with yourself when it’s uncomfortable.

In this reflection, I explore:
-why confidence is not the foundation we think it is
-how self-trust is broken through self-pressure and self-abandonment
-what it means to stay with yourself instead of overriding your signals
-how self-esteem grows through small, kind, consistent actions

Self-trust is the knowing that you won’t leave yourself —
even when it’s hard, messy, or uncomfortable.
And when your system knows “I have me”, something inside you begins to relax.

00:00 Feeling unworthy and trapped in shame
01:07 Sitting with shame and softening toward myself
02:08 What self-esteem really is — staying with yourself
03:12 Self-trust vs self-pressure and self-abandonment
04:12 Rebuilding self-trust through small, kind promises
05:13 Consistency over intensity
06:04 Staying with emotions like a loving parent
07:05 Healing happens at the speed of safety
07:50 Signs that self-trust is growing
08:10 Gentle invitation to be present with yourself and closing

🌱 The Fundament Method
This video is part of The Fundament Method — a grounded approach to building a stable inner foundation where safety, presence, and self-responsibility come before performance.

🌱 Free guide: The Fundament Baby Steps
7 gentle days to build inner safety, self-trust, and respect for your life.
A slow, grounded introduction to The Fundament Method — not to fix yourself, but to begin staying with yourself in a different way.
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📌 Next week’s video:
Why You Don’t Trust Yourself (And It’s Not Your Fault)
— where I talk about how many of us learned to doubt our own sensations, emotions, and inner signals, and what it takes to slowly rebuild that trust.
Thank you for being here.