Finding Joy After Burnout with D'Layne Benson

Описание: In this episode of The Art of Imperfect Adulting, Amy Stone speaks with D'Layne Benson about navigating burnout, self-abandonment, and the transformative power of breathwork for overwhelmed women. D'Layne shares her journey from the ski resort town of Haley, Idaho, highlighting the impact of over-functioning as a nurse, the emotional toll of family demands, and the personal reckoning brought on by the COVID-19 pandemic. This conversation is packed with actionable insight on nervous system regulation, finding joy, and creating boundaries—key lessons for anyone feeling stretched too thin.

D'Layne Benson is a former nurse turned nurse coach and breathwork facilitator, devoted to helping perfectionist, people-pleasing, and overachieving women move from overwhelm to balance, joy, and self-acceptance. Based in Idaho, she draws on her own experience of burnout, family caregiving, and personal growth to support women in uncovering their patterns and building tailored strategies for healing. D'Layne offers both group breathwork classes and one-to-one coaching, specializing in trauma-informed, transformative methods for nervous system regulation.

Main Topics Covered:
Caring for others vs. caring for yourself: How self-abandonment develops and shows up in high-achieving women
The realities of burnout as a nurse in rural and pandemic-era Idaho
Understanding the freeze response and nervous system dysregulation beyond “fight or flight”
Breaking patterns of people-pleasing and perfectionism, especially at midlife
The intersection of personal upheaval (career, health, family illness) and hormonal changes (perimenopause)
How breathwork can foster insight, healing, and tangible emotional release
Steps for moving from overwhelm to joy: list-making, boundaries, and intentional transitions
The value of finding fun, building presence, and redefining achievement beyond productivity

Timestamps: [00:00:06] Welcome to The Art of Imperfect Adulting; D'Layne’s Idaho mountain home
[00:01:21] Motivation and how to find the fun in tough projects
[00:02:55] List-making, overwhelm, and the power of single-task focus
[00:05:33] Life before the pandemic: nursing, family setup, and being “the rock”
[00:09:44] Family relationships: husband’s brain injuries, stepson, and self-development
[00:14:13] Everything collapsing: pandemic stress, family illness, perimenopause
[00:19:34] Why nursing and “helping” became an identity; childhood patterns of achievement and abandonment
[00:26:50] Freeze response explained: hidden anxiety in high-performing women
[00:32:11] Journey to breathwork: when self-help shifted from helping others to herself
[00:39:29] Breakthrough in breathwork: realizing control and safety patterns
[00:43:11] Explaining transformative breathwork vs. “just taking a deep breath”
[00:47:34] What life looks like now: presence, intention, and happiness after transformation
[00:51:27] D'Layne’s current work, virtual breathwork classes, and where to find her
[00:54:24] Special listener offer: free live breathwork class (code: imperfectadulting)
[00:54:10] Final lightning round: streaming apps, grocery cravings, best social media buy
[00:56:06] Closing thank you and reflection on the episode

ABOUT THE SHOW: The Art of Imperfect Adulting elevates the voices of experience by sharing real stories from real people figuring out adult life. Every episode features honest conversations about life's choices, changes, and challenges—interviews with individuals (not celebrities) who share their personal experiences and insights. Through these authentic stories, listeners find validation, motivation, and inspiration for navigating their own path through modern life. Because there's a big difference between expert advice and shared experience, and hearing another person's lived experience helps us feel less alone in our own situations.

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