Vulnerable Enneagram 7 Interview - "Going Back to Feelings School"

Описание: Sam Leuenberger on Being a 7: The (Avoidant) "Fun" of Talk Therapy; Vulnerability as an Attraction Strategy; and Going Back to Feelings School

Sam is an essayist and poet who recently discovered he is a 7, having mistyped as a 4 for years. Before this interview, Sam sent me his beautifully articulated thoughts on being a 7 -- a link to which is below. This conversation explores the Gestalt Therapy session that "got underneath" Sam's mental buzzing and helped him encounter his lonely inner child. Sam is mid-process in a tectonic shift in his self-concept as he reconciles with his 7-ness and goes "back to feelings school." Sam lays our for us often hidden aspects of the 7 type structure -- especially the way talking about pain can prevent feeling it and the terror 7s feel of being with pain in a genuine way. A raw and courageous conversation, and a privilege to share it.

Sam's writing:
"Ocean: Notes on a Type 7 Flavored Attachment to Frustration" - https://docs.google.com/document/d/16...

Collage Poetry Collection: "Questions Children Ask" -
https://drive.google.com/file/d/1HiGI...

Podcast version of interview:

My website: https://www.joshlavine.com/

Timestamps:

0:00 Intro
3:20 "Re-intro"
4:36 Enneagram origin, Mistyping as a 4, Learning his 7-ness
9:37 Sam's 7-ish "audition" for this interview; video & email
14:18 The therapy class that broke me (here through
20:24 The performative fun of therapy, excitement "like feeling carbonated in your body"
22:07 Gestalt Therapy: you're not talking about what I said, you're looking at the way that I "am" -- "Where's the loneliness in your body" -- "everywhere"
25:00 Vulnerability as an attraction strategy; "this is part of who I am, but I haven't wanted to know it for a long time"
29:24 The inner 12 year old boy wanted a hug; empty chair exercise
33:21 Pain as pleasure vs pain as pain; "Do you want me to live there? there's no oxygen, I can't breathe."
37:47 Confirmation bias re 7; "Life is sending me back to feelings school"; mental center good at language, feelings are preverbal
41:19 Knowing when feelings are real; 7 buoyancy vs 4... what? -- 4 energy as "fun" in doses
44:03 What will help you? "When it is appropriate to allow yourself to become undone?"
46:55 The difficulty of "being" in the same room as someone; relationships
49:59 Delaying pain by describing it skillfully -- the describing becomes primary, eclipsing the process
51:20 7 as "spraying" & superimposing interpretations, tone, mood, over the object of consideration
57:19 7 core with triple compliant (612) adjacent; freedom of expression "vs" self-censorship
1:02:41 Giving myself to writing & failing leading to transformation, participation in Creativity (capital C)
1:13:34 Reframing Sam's story through 7 lens (not 4)
1:19:27 How are you feeling & what's this been like?


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