The Psychology of Why Your Adult Children Are Distant (It's Not Your Fault)

Описание: The Psychology of Why Your Adult Children Are Distant (It's Not Your Fault)

You check your phone to see if it's broken. It's not. The silence is intentional. You spent 20 years protecting them, but now it feels like they are protecting themselves from you. In this video, we decode the heartbreaking psychology of "Benevolent Suffocation" and why your adult child is pulling away not because they hate you, but because they are trying to breathe.

We often think our children distance themselves because we failed as parents. That is false. According to family estrangement expert Dr. Joshua Coleman, this is often a case of "Failed Resignation." You are still acting like the CEO of their life, but they have promoted themselves to the boss. Today, we learn how to switch from "Manager" to "Consultant" to save your relationship before it's too late.

[⏳ TIMESTAMPS] 0:00 - The "Phantom Phone" Syndrome (Checking for texts that aren't there) 0:55 - The "Interrogation" Trap: Why "How are you?" pushes them away 1:45 - "Benevolent Suffocation": When love feels like control 2:30 - The CEO vs. Consultant: The necessary role shift

[📚 RECOMMENDED READING] These are the books that explain the modern epidemic of family estrangement and how to heal:

📘 "Rules of Estrangement" by Dr. Joshua Coleman The most authoritative book on why adult children cut ties and how to navigate the silence. 👉 Get the Book: https://www.amazon.com/Rules-Estrange...

📕 "Done With The Crying" by Sheri McGregor A guide for parents who are tired of the guilt and want to reclaim their own lives. 👉 Get the Book: https://www.amazon.com/Done-Crying-He...

📗 "Setting Boundaries with Your Adult Children" by Allison Bottke How to stop enabling and start respecting each other as adults. 👉 Get the Book: https://www.amazon.com/Setting-Bounda...

[🧠 RESEARCH & CONCEPTS] Scientific concepts discussed in this analysis:

Individuation: The developmental process where a child separates from the parent to form their own identity.

Benevolent Suffocation: The act of "over-parenting" out of love, which the adult child perceives as a lack of trust.

The Gray Rock Method: A psychological strategy of becoming unresponsive/boring (like a gray rock) to avoid conflict or emotional engagement.

[🗣️ JOIN THE DISCUSSION] Question for the Community: Be honest: When was the last time your adult child called YOU first, just to say hello? (e.g., Last week, 6 months ago, Never) 👇 Tell us in the comments. Let's break the silence together.

[⚠️ DISCLAIMER] The content provided in this video is for educational purposes only and is not intended to be a substitute for professional psychological advice, diagnosis, or treatment. If feelings of grief or isolation are affecting your mental health, please consult a professional.
#darkpsychology #psychology #psychologyfacts