Bad Behavior, Good Intentions

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There is often a big disconnect between intentions and behavior. The fact is, most people who engage in 'bad' behavior (bad as judged from the perspective of group ecology) have a positive intent to their actions, at least from their point of view. People can rationalize all sorts of behaviors, narrowing their frame to excuse their bad actions to themselves. Every one of us has told a 'white lie,' for example. And what is a white lie? A white lie is a lie you have rationalized. Is it possible that you could tell a 'mistruth' to someone, something you might only call an 'exaggeration' - but what would for the other person be nothing less than an out-an-out lie? Never make the mistake of judging another person's behavior by what it would mean if that behavior came from you. Forgive other people for not being you.