Why 'Effort' In Relationships Backfires

Описание: Repeated effort doesn’t just fail to fix a checked-out relationship, it quietly trains you into a diminishing role. This video explains how self-fulfilling prophecy and social learning theory turn “trying again” into a loop that erodes leverage, identity, and clarity. If you’ve felt stuck between doing more and disappearing anyway, this will put language to what’s actually happening.

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0:00 The Setup
1:27 "Try Again" Advice
2:53 Repetition as a Fix
3:39 The Loop
4:38 How Men Process Repetition
5:05 Real Life Stages
7:45 Repetition and Self
8:15 Self-Fulfilling Prophesy
9:56 Social Learning
12:22 Repetition Paradox
13:20 Closing the Loop
14:26 Cost of Failed Repetition

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