Getting Your Kids to Bed On Time and to STAY There

Описание: How would you like to have your children in bed on time most nights and to STAY in bed? I'm Bill Corbett, the author of the book LOVE, LIMITS & LESSONS: A PARENT'S GUIDE TO RAISING COOPERATIVE KIDS and this is the video version of the CREATING COOPERATIVE KIDS PODCAST, available where ever podcasts can be downloaded. As a professional speaker and trainer, I've spent over 25 years working with parents and teachers with children with challenging behaviors.

It's bad enough that we parents are soooo tired at the end of the day. And if the bedtime routine that you've been dealing with, seems to go on for hours, parenting in your home could be a nightmare with endless yelling. As in most parenting tips that I offer, success with your kids means setting things up in advance is key. Successful routines start with rules, boundaries and patterns that children can follow.

So when you're creating routines, you'll be more successful with your children if you practice them with the kids in advance and as often as you can. Children learn by watching and then participating in somewhat of a practice or make believe mode. You won't be very successful if you suddenly spring a change on them without warning. It's normal for them to resist because change feels uncomfortable for them. It's uncomfortable for anyone, even adults. So you'll be more successful with anything you've learned in this podcast if you set up practice runs with the kids so they will expect new routines to happen.

In this episode I'm reading a chapter from my book, Love, Limits & Lessons: A Parent's Guide to Raising Cooperative Kids. It's available in paperback, kindle and now on Audible.

One of the main points I hope you'll walk away with is a silent and loving mode of getting a child to a location to do something. In this case, it's getting them to bed. It requires no speaking, no emotional reaction, placing your hand on the middle of the child's back and guiding them to that particular spot. You then walk away in silence. To be successful with this, you must set it all up in advance by telling your child what your new behavior is going to look like and then role playing with them so they can see it.

I used this method to get my kids to pick something up that they left on the floor, to the location of where a chore was to be done, to the television to turn it off because they left it on, to the bathroom sink to get them to brush their teeth, to their bed in their room and or to locations for so many other situation. In the beginning they would try to engage me by asking me questions or whining about having to be coached to a location.

Then came the phase which was the most fun for me... they did not want me to go into the mechanical loving dad mode. I would move toward them in silence with my hand extended and ready to place on their backs and they would squeal with almost delight by saying, "Don't touch me," and would then run away from me to the location I needed them to go. This really added more fun to the family dynamics. They knew what I needed them to do and they had originally agreed to follow through. I hope you will give this method a try and do it over and over until it becomes second nature to you and comfortable for your kids to experience.

If you have questions about what you've heard here, I hope you will consider joining my RAISING AN INDEPENDENT CHILD Facebook page. I'd love to hear from you and help you implement some of these ideas. But let me caution you. Don't try to implement everything you learn in this podcast, all at once. It could overwhelm you. Pick just one or two tips at a time and do them over and over. Then replay the episodes at a later time to learn more. Thanks again for listening and please consider sharing or subscribing to this podcast. All information in this podcast is the property of Bill Corbett and Cooperative Kids Publishing. Copyright 2023. All rights reserved.