Children Suffer the Most

Описание: We need real change in New Zealand’s Family Court system.

This is the beginning of a platform I’m building to support men who are going through this alone—because I know the pain, the emotional turmoil, and the damage it can do to your soul.

Many men are abandoned during separation. Friends disappear. Churches don’t know how—or choose not—to support men like us. The people you expect to stand beside you often don’t. I know this from lived experience. That’s why I’ve created this platform: to build a network of real, tangible support so no man has to walk this road alone.

False allegations are real. They are used as weapons—and they destroy lives.

In October 2024, I stood before the Family Court to defend myself against false allegations made by my ex-spouse. From the moment I entered the courtroom, I felt judged. My evidence was dismissed. The judge showed no interest. In one ruling, I lost access to my children, my home, and everything I had worked for over 20 years of marriage. I walked out with nothing—based entirely on lies.

That experience broke me. It was the most painful thing I have ever endured.

But it stops here.

Two years on, as I continue my healing journey, this is why I’m stepping forward—not out of bitterness, but out of purpose. No man should have to endure isolation, silence, and despair the way I did.

For two years, I had no support. No voice.

In 2025, two young fathers took their own lives. That should stop every one of us in our tracks.

I’m not asking for money. I’m asking for solidarity.

I’m reaching out to men who’ve been through the system—men who have felt unheard, dismissed, and broken by it. We need a voice. We need reform. And I’m choosing to stand up.

If you’ve been affected, if you believe things must change, I ask you to stand with me—so other men don’t have to suffer in silence.

Your voice matters.
Let’s make it count.