Self-Abandonment: 5 Signs You're Choosing Everyone Else Over Yourself

Описание: Why you keep abandoning yourself: Self-abandonment is invisible. You've been calling it "being professional," "being nice," "keeping the peace." But every time you say yes when you mean no, ignore your body's signals, or shrink yourself to fit - you're abandoning yourself.

Here are the 5 signs you're doing it daily, and how to finally choose yourself instead.
You pride yourself on being dependable. Reliable.
The one people can count on.
You're professional.
You keep the peace. You don't make waves.
You'd never abandon someone else.
But what if you've been abandoning yourself for years - and calling it something else?

THE INVISIBLE BETRAYAL: Self-abandonment doesn't look like neglect. It looks like:
Saying yes when you mean no
Smiling when you're hurting
Performing "fine" when you're falling apart
Shrinking yourself to make others comfortable
Ignoring what your body is screaming
Accepting breadcrumbs and calling them a feast

And you don't even realise you're doing it.
Because it's been normalised your entire life: "Be polite." "Don't be difficult." "Think of others." "Don't be selfish."
So you learned: Other people's comfort matters more than your own needs.
And that became your operating system.

IN THIS VIDEO:
✨ The 5 signs you're abandoning yourself daily
✨ Why self-abandonment is a trauma response (fawning explained)
✨ How people-pleasing is self-betrayal, not kindness
✨ Why you accept breadcrumbs instead of demanding the whole loaf
✨ The difference between being generous and giving yourself away
✨ How to start choosing yourself without guilt
✨ Why the people who stay when you set boundaries are YOUR people

This is Day 5 of The Change Code™: a 28-day series teaching you how to build inner safety and navigate constant change without abandoning yourself.

⏱️ TIMESTAMPS:
0:00 - The invisible betrayal
0:48 - What self-abandonment actually looks like
2:30 - Sign 1: People-pleasing at your own expense
3:23 - Sign 2: Ignoring your body's signals
4:25 - Sign 3: Shrinking yourself to fit
5:17 - Sign 4: Over-functioning for others
6:28 - Sign 5: Accepting breadcrumbs
7:35 - Why we do this (fawning explained)
9:03 - How to stop abandoning yourself
11:08 - What to do next + Day 6 preview

YOUR BODY IS SPEAKING. Self-abandonment kept you safe as a child.
But you're not that child anymore.
You're allowed to have needs. You're allowed to take up space. You're allowed to choose yourself.
The people who stay when you start choosing yourself? Those are your people.
The ones who leave? They were only there for what you could do for them.
Start now. Choose yourself.

ABOUT ME: I'm Jodie Bowen - creator of The Change Code™ framework and author of The Change Code™ book (coming soon). I spent 25 years as a change expert and transformation coach, leading large-scale transformations for Fortune 500 companies. I've helped over 100,000 people navigate change and learned a lot along the way.
But when my father died unexpectedly, I burned out completely - mentally and physically. I couldn't work. My identity crumbled. And none of the change frameworks I taught could help me navigate my own crisis.
So I stopped trying to "fix" myself with mindset work and went back to my foundation: the nervous system. I realised we've been approaching personal transformation backwards. We try to change our thoughts, our behaviours, our lives - while our nervous system is screaming "NOT SAFE."
So I created The Change Code™ - the first trauma-informed, neuroscience-backed change framework that starts with regulation, rebuilds self-trust, and guides you to aligned action. This is change management for your life. With zero toxic positivity. Just real tools to co-exist with constant change.

THE CHANGE CODE™: 28 DAYS OF NERVOUS SYSTEM CHANGE:
🔹 Week 1: START - Build Inner Safety (nervous system regulation)
🔹 Week 2: BELIEVE - Rebuild Self-Trust (evidence you can handle life)
🔹 Week 3: CREATE - Design Intentionally (clarity comes from safety)
🔹 Week 4: ACT - Take Aligned Action (navigate change with confidence)

TOMORROW'S VIDEO (DAY 6): What your body is trying to tell you (and why you keep ignoring it)
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