Kiss Your Spouse First - Parenting And Your Marriage

Описание: One of our beta-tester couples read this tip on a card in our FOUNDATIONS deck and said, “Does this mean ‘before’ as in ‘prior to’ or as in ‘in front of’?” Our response: “BOTH!” So we actually added that to the card as well. 👌🏽
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We’ve spent a lot of time lately thinking about parenting… While we have an infant and have had to be intentional about staying united when it comes to feeding and sleeping routines, we also have a 1.5-year-old who is constantly stretching herself as a growing human being with a growing human will. 🤗

♥️ We have found that it’s so important to be united — not only in our relationship, but in these 3 areas:

♥️ RULES: This part is the simplest, but definitely not the easiest. Our dad just reminded us the other day about this principle: We give the instruction once, and if she doesn’t obey, there’s a consequence. There are no threats, counting, making deals or trying to convince. It’s simple. Children are only given one command in the entire Bible: “Obey your parents in the Lord for this is right.” Sometimes we find one of us being more lenient and other times, it’s just not a convenient time to follow through with a consequence. But remember that consistency as parents and staying on the same page about the rules is crucial. We are definitely still working on this one. (Shout-out to the moms in nursery this week that saw us display an epic fail in this area. 🤦🏼‍♀️)

♥️ REACTIONS: This can be subtle. Comments like, “Did Daddy really say that?” or even a questioning look on your face when you witness your spouse teaching/correcting can cause your child to distrust. It certainly clues them in to the fact that you’re divided on the issue, and they’ll likely use that to even further distance the two of you in order to get their way. 😩 This one applies to parents of teens as well...

♥️ ROUTINES: Children thrive when they know what to expect. It’s definitely okay to switch up your routine, especially for different contexts. For instance, maybe the weekday bedtime is different from the weekend bedtime. There are also seasons of life where flexibility is important. But for the most part, do your best to be consistent with routines.