MAMA TRAUMA TRUTH: BORDERLINE, NARCISSIST AND WOUNDED MOMS

Описание: Mothering is complicated, and never is that more true than when it comes to Mama Trauma and speaking our truth about our mothers --when we have or had more challenging relationships with them.

Borderline Personality Disorder, Narcissistic Personality Disorder and other serious mental health issues come from a combination of genetics, heredity, and attachment/environmental wounding.

I find that many talk so badly about Narcissism (and don't get me wrong, I know how horrendous Narcissism, and Narcissistic abuse can be for us in our world and relationships), but I feel there's a double standard sometimes when we talk about Borderline or other disorders.

The truth is that hurt people hurt people - whether that hurt occurs intentionally or not - it still wounds us.

But when we talk about our mothers hurting us, there's often a thread that runs alongside us saying "don't talk about her out loud" because we are always supposed to feel that all motherly love is good love - even when it's not.

I absolutely believe that those with any serious mental disorder, regardless of what it is, deserve love and compassion, and help and support.

But, so do the children, partners, and parents of those who are on the receiving end of these painful mental health issues.

Regardless of what side of the experience we are on, I believe we need to be honest about the wounds and pains, and it seems like we are a little more comfortable talking about wounds from fathers or from Narcissists --than from moms and those who struggle with what I call more "complicated love - love that can range from good to bad - sometimes all in one day."

Too often, therapists, co-parents and well-intentioned others (including ourselves) will say...

"But she's your mom!"

"You only have one mom so just let it go".

"Why can't you just accept who she is and try not to make her mad at you?"

❤️and many other things like this....so this video is about that.....and even if your mom is long gone, or you are not in contact with her, and you are still wrestling with that complicated love - you don't need to feel guilty for sharing your truth or for protecting yourself.

❤️❤️❤️YOU ARE ENTITLED TO CHOOSE WHO YOU LET LOVE YOU AND WHO YOU LOVE--
AND NO ONE SHOULD BE ALLOWED TO CONTINUE HURTING YOU.❤️❤️❤️

xo

TOMORROW:

🦋DISSOCIATION🦋 ---AND IT'S ROLE IN RELATIONSHIPS SHAME AND CPTSD - JOURNAL SERIES
(we will finally start the real prompts tomorrow!)🙏🏻🙏🏻

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