The Myth of Going to Bed Angry: Communication Skills for Couples

Описание: On this episode of Perpetual mOetion with Dr. mOe Anderson, couples communication expert Raffi Bilek, LCSWC, joins the show to unpack how modern digital life is reshaping — and often straining — our closest relationships. Raffi, author of The Couple’s Communication Handbook, explains why in-person connection matters, how social media and texting create tone-deaf misunderstandings, and why difficult conversations rarely go well over screens.

Sound Bites

"Social media can distort real-life relationships."
"Texting is not suitable for deep conversations."
"Going to bed angry can sometimes be beneficial."

Topics covered include the common communication traps of digital life (tone misreads, avoidance, comparison), the harmful effects of trying to resolve deep issues by text or quick video, and the cultural myth that you must never go to bed angry. Raffi and Dr. mOe discuss why postponing a heated conversation can be healthier, and when returning to the discussion later produces real progress.

The episode reframes conflict from breakdown to opportunity: with the right tools, everyday friction can deepen intimacy, build trust, and create lasting teamwork. Rafi also outlines the most common reasons couples seek counseling — chronic communication problems, infidelity, neurodiversity, and life stressors — and how coaching or therapy can guide repair and growth.

Listeners can expect concrete, actionable guidance: when to delay a conversation, how to de-escalate, how to listen to understand (not to rebut), and simple exercises to practice connection.

Tune in to learn how to stop arguing in circles, regulate your emotional tone, and turn conflict into connection—so you and your partner (or friends and teammates) can feel heard, understood, and closer.

To connect with Raffi and download two chapters of his book for free, visit his website https://www.thecommunicationbook.com/

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