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Описание: Want a simpler life?
These 5 small changes to simplify life instantly may help in creating a simple and slower life.

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Chapters:
00:00 small changes to simplify life
00:44 doing simplicity right
02:11 self improvement trap
03:36 change of heart
04:50 leaving the hustle behind
05:57 some thoughts
07:13 small changes that make a difference

Have you ever wondered why life still feels overwhelming, even when you're trying to simplify?
I used to think that decluttering my space, cutting back on commitments, or slowing down would make everything feel lighter.
But even after all that, my mind still felt cluttered.
That’s when I realized: it wasn’t just what I was doing—it was what I wasn't doing.
Sometimes, we make life harder without even noticing it. But once we see it, everything changes.
Here’s what I had to unlearn to finally feel lighter and simplify life.
When “Simple” Becomes Another Thing to Get Right
At one point, I got obsessed with simplifying everything. I wanted the perfect slow lifestyle, the most intentional time management, and an aesthetic capsule wardrobe that fit all my ideals.
Ironically, I ended up stressed out about whether I was "doing simplicity right."
That’s when it hit me: I was filling my life with a list of shoulds.
There’s no prize for having the most minimalist lifestyle or a gold star for perfecting the art of slow living.
If we’re constantly questioning whether we’re doing it right, we’re just replacing one kind of pressure with another.
The real shift came when I realized that a slow, simple life isn’t about controlling every detail—it’s about letting go of the need to control everything.
It's embracing our lives at any stage—even the messy parts. Because in reality, nobody has everything figured out completely—even if they look like it. We're all a work in progress, and that's perfectly okay.
The Hidden Trap of Self-Improvement
I love learning and growing, and I believe self-improvement can be a beautiful thing. But for a long time, I found myself constantly striving—reading self-help books, setting new goals, refining habits—always looking for the next way to improve.
It seemed productive, but deep down, I started to wonder: Am I trying to improve because I truly want to, or because I’m afraid of never being enough?
The tricky part is that when we tie our sense of worth to constant progress, the goalpost keeps moving. No matter how much I improved, it never felt like enough. I was always measuring myself against an ideal version of me—one that was just out of reach.
But life isn’t a race to some perfect destination. Growth matters, but so does recognizing how far we’ve already come. It’s okay to evolve, to seek better, but it’s also okay to pause, to appreciate the present, and to find contentment in the quiet, subtle in-between.
The Pressure to Finish Everything We Start
I normalized the idea that once I committed to something—a goal, a dream, even a relationship—I had to see it through no matter what.
But what happens when your heart changes?
We’re taught that quitting means failure. But sometimes, growth means outgrowing things.
Maybe a career you once loved no longer excites you. Or a goal that once mattered now feels off-track. Or maybe a friendship that used to be fulfilling no longer fits with who you are today.
Letting go doesn’t mean you're flaky; it just means you're being honest with yourself.
And truthfully, holding onto things just because you started them—even if they no longer align—is what keeps you stuck.
It’s okay to change your mind. Life’s not about proving you can stick with something forever—it’s about having the courage to walk away when something no longer fits.
Leaving the Hustle Without Leaving Everything Behind
For so long, I thought that leaving the hustle meant giving up everything—ambition, goals, productivity. But that’s not true.
You don’t have to quit your job or retreat to a cabin in the woods to step out of the cycle of exhaustion.
It’s about stopping the autopilot mode.
Hustle isn’t about how much you do—it’s about the energy and intention behind it.
Are you working towards something that truly aligns with your values, or are you just trying to keep up with external expectations?
Slowing down doesn’t mean giving up on your dreams. It simply means giving yourself permission to choose how you reach them.
And when you stop running just to keep up, you’ll realize—you were never really behind.