Why Your Mind Gets Stuck After an Abusive Relationship

Описание: Why can’t your mind let go of an abusive relationship? Even when you know it was harmful?
If you feel mentally stuck replaying the past, it doesn’t mean you’re weak, obsessed, or secretly still in love.

It means you’re grieving and your nervous system hasn’t fully recovered yet.

In this video, Dr. Tara J. Palmatier, PsyD explains why people often get mentally stuck after abusive or high-conflict relationships, especially with narcissistic, borderline, or emotionally manipulative partners. Rumination after abuse isn’t a failure to “move on.” It’s grief complicated by deception, trauma bonding, and nervous system injury.

This video covers:
• Why rumination after abusive relationships is not obsession
• The four common phases people move through after leaving an abusive partner
• Why anger can be a healthy sign — and when it turns into getting stuck
• How pop-psych advice, “closure,” and influencer therapy culture can delay healing
• What actually helps the mind and body resolve the loop and move forward

Healing doesn’t mean forgetting or excusing what happened.

It means the past stops hijacking your thoughts, your nervous system settles, and your life starts to feel like yours again.

Work With Dr. Tara J. Palmatier, PsyD
Dr. Palmatier specializes in helping men and women identify and exit emotionally abusive, high-conflict relationships and recover from the psychological damage they cause. Since 2009, her work has focused on:

• Toxic and narcissistic relationship dynamics
• Emotional abuse and psychological manipulation
• High-conflict divorce and custody issues
• Parallel parenting strategies
• Trauma recovery and boundary rebuilding

If you’d like to work with Dr. Palmatier:
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