How to Heal from the Past and Build Healthy Relationships with Richard Helen S5 EP3

Описание: Richard Helen is one of those people where every time he opens his mouth, you want to grab a notepad and write everything down. We met through a men's group, and I've been trying to get him on the podcast ever since.

Richard's story isn't what you'd expect. He grew up in a small town in Texas, joined the military at 19, and discovered leadership in a way that completely changed his life. But it wasn't just about leading others—it was about learning to lead himself first. Through counseling, reflection, and a lot of hard work, Richard discovered how the way he was raised shaped the way he showed up in relationships. And once he understood that, everything changed.

This conversation is one of the most practical episodes we've ever done. If you've ever struggled in a relationship—whether it's with your spouse, your kids, or even yourself—this episode will give you real tools to work with.

Richard breaks down what a healthy relationship actually looks like, how to communicate when emotions are running high, how to rebuild trust after you've broken it, and why so many of us keep attracting the same type of person over and over again.
What We Talked About:

How the military taught Richard about leadership and serving something bigger than himself
The five agreements every healthy relationship needs (spiritual, emotional, financial, sexual, and parenting)

Why emotional intelligence is the foundation of every relationship
How to communicate during conflict without tearing each other down
The rules Richard and his wife created to fight fair in their marriage
How to apologize the right way (and why most apologies don't work)
Rebuilding trust after you've broken it—and why you can't rush the process
Why counseling isn't just for broken people—it's for anyone who wants to grow
How to heal from your past so you don't keep bringing it into new relationships
Why you can't expect someone else to validate what only God can

Richard has been married three times, and he's the first to tell you that his past failures made him the man he is today. He doesn't regret any of it—because without those experiences, he wouldn't be able to help the people he's helping now.

If you're locked up right now and thinking about the relationships you've damaged or the ones you want to build when you get out—this episode is for you. Start working on yourself now so you're ready when the time comes.

Connect with Richard Helen:
Website: RichardHelen.com

If this episode helped you, share it with someone who needs to hear it. And remember — you're loved, you're forgiven, and there's nothing you can do about it.

CHAPTER MARKERS
0:00 Introduction
2:45 Who is Richard Helen?
5:30 Joining the Military and Learning Leadership
9:20 The Power of Reading and How Books Changed Everything
14:00 The Five Agreements Every Healthy Relationship Needs
18:45 Emotional Intelligence and Self-Awareness in Relationships
23:50 Rebuilding Trust After Breaking It
28:15 How to Apologize the Right Way
32:40 Communicating When Emotions Are Running High
38:20 The Rules Richard and His Wife Created for Conflict
43:10 Why Counseling is Essential for Everyone
48:00 Healing from the Past So You Don't Bring It Into the Present
52:30 The Importance of a Support System in Marriage
56:45 Richard's Advice to His 16-Year-Old Self—He Wouldn't Change a Thing

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