Self-regulation of mental processes

Описание: Is it easy to throw you off by a minor comment or stress? Are you tired of living with a low self esteem and lacking self-love? Are you impulsive like a child? First – emotion and then reasoning and regret? Are you always feeling tense? Are you struggling to let people in? Are you feeling anxious with or without a reason? Are you in a complicated relationship with your relatives or loved ones? Do you feel jealous of other people and feeling guilty about it? Do you always have the need to justify yourself to people? Do your hands and feet get cold when you are stressed? Do you have communication issues? Are you afraid to trust people and let them get close to you? Do you consider a high temper and anger to be your negative features? Do you want to get rid of them for good? Do you get confused when everyone around you talks about boundaries? Or maybe you feel you have broken one too many boundaries with the people around you? When an emotion strikes – do you snap, cry, get sad? Do you struggle to say "No" and always do what other people want? Do you have health issues? Do you go to the pharmacy more that you go to the movies?

Self regulation of mental processes is when something is being regulated by itself without us consciously realizing it or participating.

We all have our background and come from a certain country with its history and traditions no matter when we were born. And it means that in most cases all our mothers and grandmothers cared about was if their child was well fed. The classic: “You can’t leave the table until you finish your meal” – made the children stuff themselves with whatever food there was on the plate eventhough they have been full several spoons ago.

This is how out of love and care, our mothers and grandmothers made us stop trusting ourselves, our body and our inner sensations! They have broken the natural self-regulation sequence by suppressing and substituting the child’s natural sensations with their confidence. The parents have always known better which dress the daughter “wants” and that their son has always "dreamed" of a new book and not a bicycle.

"Your mother always knows better what you need!"

What happens to the child when they are being yelled at or physically abused by the adult whom they fully trust? They freeze and get lost, it is like they are flying out of the body and stop feeling themselves. And who wasn’t yelled at by a parent? That’s right! No such people, or a really low percentage.

Having learned this reaction in our childhood, as adults we freeze when stressed. We have lost touch with our inner sensations, we have learned to fly out of the body, hence we cannot use our body to self-regulate because we simply cannot hear it.

A lot of people live constantly feeling lost and frozen.

"Everyone talks about self-worth and self-love. But how do i love myself and i am missing? I do not feel myself!"

The webinar is about wholeness, inner ground, mental and physical health.

In this webinar you will get answers to the following questions:

How not to freeze when stressed?
What is mindfulness and why do we need it?
What is containing of emotions and how to do it?
Why do we need the resource and how to get it?
How can a mother contain her child’s emotions?
How to recognize, locate and accept the suppressed and devalued feelings and emotions?
How to choose your reaction instead of following the first emotional impulse?
Boundaries: what are they and how to build them?
What are the consequences of lack of boundaries and how to build them?
Boundaries with our relatives and loved ones. Boundary violations.
How does processing of our emotions make our life significantly better?
How to activate a suppressed feeling and process it?
Why is it of utmost importance to rest and recover?
What is slowing down, grounding, centering and why do we need them?
How to relieve inner tension, feeling lost and frozen?
Why is it so important to learn to say “No!”?
How to become whole?

In the webinar Veronica gives:

A practice called "Containing" to accept and process your feelings and emotions;
A game/practice "Locate an emotion in your body";
A mindfulness algorithm;
A game to activate and process the suppressed emotion: "Emotions journalist";
An exercise "Finding yourself in stress";
A detailed breakdown of the feelings: joy, sadness, fear, disgust, tenderness, anger, respect;
A "Letter to my body" technique;
"My boundaries" exercise.

All the given techniques can be recorded and stay with you forever. You can use them as many times as you like. When they are automatic, you will stop using your childhood reactions and freeze.

"Your body has many ways to offer comfort and you will learn to take advantage of them!"