You Must Give Up Hope for a Better Past

Описание: Why Perfectionism, Coaching Culture, and “Growth” Often Do More Harm Than Good

This video is based on the article You Must Give Up Hope for a Better Past, inspired by psychologist Leon Garber’s work on perfectionism and extended through lived experience and critical analysis of modern coaching culture.

Perfectionism is often praised as high standards, ambition, or discipline. In reality, it is frequently about safety, fairness, and trying to make the past make sense. Leon Garber argues that many perfectionists spend their lives attempting to repair earlier emotional wounds by curating the present, hoping that success, clarity, or “growth” will finally make things feel right.

Coaching culture does not challenge this drive. It often repackages it as alignment, self-actualisation, or raising standards. When unresolved perfectionism is given moral authority, relationships can become collateral damage. Love is reframed as insufficient. Stability is reframed as stagnation. Certainty replaces care.

This video explores:

Why perfectionism is retrospective, not aspirational

How coaching and self-help frameworks rewrite the past

Why phrases like “love is not enough” function as ideological exits

How certainty is rewarded while responsibility is quietly avoided

Why giving up hope for a better past is threatening to the coaching industry

This is not an attack on personal growth. It is a critique of growth narratives that bypass accountability, complexity, and real human impact.

Some pain cannot be redeemed by becoming more.
Some pasts will never make sense.
And no framework should be allowed to override basic relational responsibility.

Read the full article here:
🔗 https://truthincoaching.org/give-up-h...

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